Ok. My boyfriend who I have been dating for a little over a year has been asking me to have a baby with him for a while now. He says its compleatly up to me if I want to, or if I would like to wait. I think I would like to, but Im kinda young... (I will be turning 17 soon) I could graduate this year if I wanted to or had to... Im just confused if I should have a baby with him or not.
2007-03-14 15:58:32 · 20 answers · asked by kreepyemily 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's your choice but my opinion is to do what your heart wants and DON'T give into pressure. You should really plan for the future and ask yourself questions like "where would this go?" "is this going to affect my future in college or highschool?" "what are the consequences if things go wrong?". those are questions that I would ask myself if I was in your position. I just learned about stuff like that in health class and just remember that you shouldn't let someone tell you what to do, so be strong.
2007-03-14 16:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Micki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I can say is PLEASE, PLEASE don't become another mom who ends up on welfare because they just didn't realize how much money it would cost to raise a baby.
Think about your future. It seems like you have lots of school smarts, and you should go to collage or university! If you have a baby, that will NOT happen.
How about this for a comprimise: tell him that one day you would really like to have a baby, but you would like to get a post-secondary education, save some money up, and have a good job first. Tell him you know that raising a baby can cost $15,000 in the first year alone, and you want to have a lot of that saved up so that you won't have to work as soon as your baby hits 7 days old.
Be smart, wait at least 5 years.
2007-03-15 09:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not have a baby.
You're still in high school. You need a college education if you ever want to have a good job. And you still need time to have fun being a teen and a young woman and finding out who YOU are before you have a little person who is COMPLETELY dependent on you in your life. You need to be in a situation where you can provide for your child, and obviously at this age and stage in life, you aren't yet.
He's your boyfriend, not your hubby. Get a commitment and spend some time working on building a life together before trying to start a family.
2007-03-14 23:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just by that question you are not ready!!! just wait life goes by so fast...enjoy your years that you have right now....16 is really young to be thinking about a baby....
I have a 2 year old and it is very hard and I'm married and almost 26...Hun i would really wait you have so much fun coming up in your 20's...enjoy that time because you only get it once.....
2007-03-14 23:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Allybaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm I'd wait till i graduated because I'd hate to know that i went 13 years in school and got down to my last year to find out i cant graduate because my bf wants to have a baby to trap me so i cant go to and meet new people and i bet your parents would be pretty pissed and give you that long speech about how your throwing your life away and they keep repeating you have better since than this whats wrong with you.and also they will be talking bad about your bf to so unless you want alot of controversy i would wait till your 18 and away from the parentals
2007-03-14 23:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by mommy to a preemie baby girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre young, its best to wait. Go to college, stay with this boy a few years then decide on whether or not you want a baby. Trust me, women mature differently than men. You may find that you grow out of him, and it would be detrimental to you to have a child so young and miss out on the many fun things adult hood brings. A girlfriend of mine had her second child by your age, and by the third she was going stir crazy due to missing her childhood and the usual rites of passage due to her at certain ages. Shes now without her children due to that stint of craziness and is working to get them back....I love her children dearly and her dearly but I truly wish she had waited so that she wouldnt be going through this now. I waited til 22 and feel that I get to enjoy my child that much more.
2007-03-14 23:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear please dont be confused about this, there is nothing to be confused about, Dont do it yet, please you have so much to look forward to, your not 18 yet so your not even legal to do alot of things,experience life first, graduate, see the world, please dont bring a baby into the world until you are 100% positive that its what you want, dont let your guy pressure you into anything, tell him how you feel,
I had my first baby at 21 yrs old and i am very very happy and i made that decision, but i even feel sometimes that i could have waited
Goodluck with your desicion
2007-03-14 23:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by jenstarcutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm...there like a whole host of reasons y u shouldnt have a child at that age....first u can hurt ur body...at that age ur not fully developed to have a child...secondly...it is really understandable that u feel that obligation to make this child...but u will regret it later cuz ur still too young and it could only b hormones....i think u should go to college and prepare urself....then have the child...so if something goes wrong and u two break up...u wont end up like britney spears
2007-03-14 23:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO YOUR ONLY 16 I DONT CARE IF YOUR TURNING 17 YOU SHOULDNT HAVE A BABY WITH A GUY WHO YOU'VE ONLY BEEN DATING FOR 1 YEAR. YOUR NOT EVEN MARRIED FOR GOD'S SAKE! KIDS THESE DAYS AND I AM ONLY 14! GO TO COLLEGE GET MARRIED WAIT A WHILE AND THEN YOU CAN THINK ABOUT THAT.
2007-03-15 00:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Julianne G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a doubt don't do it. At least not until u graduate. You are young and should wait until you KNOW you are ready. I would say wait. Good Luck.
2007-03-14 23:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋