i was walking out of a ladies room with my 3yr old daughter and a tall african american was walking in our direction when my daughter blurted out "mommy look a big chocolate man" i have never told her the difference in ethnicities so i was shocked when she called him chocolate!!! is being called chocolate offensive???? what would be the right term to tell my daughter.. we are hispanic and my husband and i never use racial comments or racial slang.. please help i need some input on this issue......
2007-03-14 15:42:57 · 7 answers · asked by mari101504 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Ok. No need for everyone to get hostile toward this 3 year old. She is calling him that because his skin to her looks like a chocolate bar or candy that she has seen or eaten. Since she is 3, I don't think she is trying to be offensive, just descriptive (I have heard this kind of thing from youngsters before). As she grows older and learns to express herself better and learns race differences (not in a bad way), these things wont happen. As someone who is "chocolate" I don't find this offensive from a 3 year old.
2007-03-14 18:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by whosbotheringme2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually if you think it offensive than it is.People know when jokes are funny and when comments are rude and impolite.It doesn't matter if your racist or not you had to have made that reference to African American as to chocolate at some point,or your daughter wouldn't of known how to say it in that manner.Choose and select your words wisely at age 3 children pick up and understand way more than you may think.As to chocolate being referred to as another stereo typical slang word,maybe you should think would you like to be called caramel.Yes its a joke and may seem funny but,to some it may be just plain rude.
2007-03-14 15:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well me myself don't care what u call me its only what I answer too, but African American is the best term to me,but chocolate is not as bad as some other names we have been called and I feel Ur child meant nothing by the way she said it and because she was a child I would not have got upset with her but very kindly redirected her to the correct terminology
2007-03-14 15:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by MsThang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if she licks him first
obviously if you are being honest in your freethinking casa then someone is having an influence on your nina that is way not cool
would you be okay if an African American three year old called your baby a jalapeno? NOT
2007-03-14 15:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by cubcowboysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its cute but tell you the truth there is no proper term anymore...diffrent groups change there minds on a daily basis of what they want to be called...
2007-03-14 15:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Spades Of Columbia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
chocolate sounds sexual. i know your 3 year old doesn't know that. if i was that big chocolate man i wouldn't have been mad, i would of said hello. i can't speak for all of course.
2007-03-14 16:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not black......then yes. in my opinion it is offensive. lol, but she's 3 so it's ok.
2007-03-14 15:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Raven's Shadow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋