I'm shy around girls?

Question

im 13 and I am very shy around other girls that I find attractive and I cant even say hi to them with out finding some way to mess it up and I think that when I say hi other people around me will think I like them when I don’t how can I fix being shy around girls including the ones I want to ask out

Answer 1

find a common interest with the girl and when you get the chance just randomly bring it up but do it when it isnt to random. im 13 too so i kno wat you mean. i like someone too but i didnt kno how to talk to him but it is just another story with me. you could also tell her you like wat she is wearing. us girls spend lots of time on our clothes,hair.ect so she would appreceate it.


if she talks to you or is sweet to you then she wants to be your friend. now if she likes you then she would like to laugh around you because that feels natural to her.if she lets her guard down around you she might like you.

Answer 2

A lot of people are still nervous about that kind of stuff. I'm turning twelve this year and I can't even talk to my guy friends without getting tongue tied, or embarrassed around them. The things that get me thought it is knowing that I can get over my shyness. Its just a little phase that everyone goes through, even our parents. Don't worry it'll be easier if you made some friends who are girls. Anyway it will get easier everyday. Lots of girls like me are more nervous then you think, they have the exact same problem as you. It's just a matter of time before girls start talking to you and hanging out with you.

Answer 3

Being that you're rather young, you should consider on just slowing down on the whole dating thing. If you want to fix your uneasiness towards girls, you should get some friends that are girls that you are comfortable with talking to. It's best if these girls don't really care about dating. That way, you can get used to talking to girls. Now, I'm not saying that you should start hunting down girls though.

With the girls that you do find attractive, get into some contact with them rather than hiding behind bushes when you see them. If you have an opportunity to talk to them, ask them a casual question. For example, you can just leisurely ask what your cafeteria is serving for lunch today. In doing this, you'll ease into talking to them and you'll make your presence known without having to do something crazy. What you shouldn't do is forcefully approach them and ask them an odd question out of the blue. That'll just weird them out. When speaking to them, relax. You should remember that they're human too. (Also, don't mumble.)

Believe me on these tips. I've been in the dating scene and I know how teenage girls think. I'm a teenage girl myself. You should know that not all people are ready for going out with the opposite gender when they're your age. I wish you luck though.

Answer 4

I'm also shy around girl that I like You're not alone I'm 24 im still shy around girl

Answer 5

I was very shy around girls when I was young like you. When I finally realized that they are just people like us I got over it.
Its hard to get over. But don't worry they are not going to call you stupid or ugly or be mean to you. They are probably on here going I know this really cute guy how do I get him to talk to me. They are human just like you. They have the same fears desires and insecurities. I had a friend who asked every women he met out on a date. He got rejected a lot but he always had a pretty girlfriend. Just go for it. They won't bite you. At first it might be akward but you will get better.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Don't worry too much, it only get you into more desperation.
I was there when in your age.

Best is focus at your school work get high scores coz girls don't like losers. Participate in some charity club for youngster, or environmental related activities. Once your contribution achieve to a reputable member status, girls will want to talk to you. Since your contacts are professional manner, will become normal as you talk to boyz over times. Your shyness will eventually automatically disappear.

Answer 7

well..a lot of people get shy around the opposite sex at age 13. Just start waving to girls different girls then they wont think you like them. Also you could just pretend the girl you ae with is a close friend of yours and just talk to them like that. Im shy too so i know how you feel so just try to talk more to girls that are attractive to you.

Answer 8

Just be yourself. I am a girl that wants to be asked out when I'm older.

Answer 9

just talk to them. they are normal ppl (i should kno i am one + im almost 14 XD) we like it when boys actuallly talk to us like we're rl ppl + that's stupid for ppl to think u like a girl just cuz u talk to her. i mean, everyone's allowed to have friends, no matter wat gender they are. and when u say hi to a girl, and if u mess it up, don't worry about it. believe it or not, we think that's kinda cute. lol. most all girls do unless they're a real beotch or sumthin. & around the girl/girls (tho i don't suggest having more than one at once lol) just talk to them like they're one of ur best friends. but dont do all the rough housing stuff. & dont tease them either. that hurts (emotionally). but u can b saracastic. and if u want to make it easier to talk around a girl u like, get a friend to come with u and all of u can talk together (but make eye contact with her a couple of times to let her kno u'r interested). this will make it easier to find out more about the one u like. or, when u see her talking to a friend and you've made sure its not a private/personal conversation, go see if you can join in and talk to them.
I hope this helps.
good luck!!

Answer 10

You are very young that's why you are shy

Answer 11

Give yourself an alter-ego. Your alter-ego is a confident, popular, and charming. Become this person when you are around a girl you like. Im shy too, but I give myself an alter-ego at work when I discuss business with important people. It really does work!