He would rather go to school full time in the summer until late July, instead of working to help me support our baby. He says he wants to help and be there for us but how can he do that by going to school full time and not working when he knows he needs to be??
2007-03-14 14:56:56 · 4 answers · asked by beauty20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I explained to him that he can work part time and go to school but he just doesn't seem to get it.
2007-03-14 15:07:38 · update #1
student loans........grants.....getting a good education and being a good provider in the future is very important, you should be supportive..stop freaking out he is doing the right thing......and if things don't work out don't you want him to be reliable and have a good job when it comes to child support?sometimes having a baby on the way can make a man see how much harder he needs to work to be a good father,provider,role model.you should be proud of him.
2007-03-14 15:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the long run school will pay off because he will be more help financially for you and your baby but he should at least be working part-time while in school to help with the child because you will be taking your leave from work also, that is going to be a tight situation with both of you out of work. Talk to him, tell him exactly how it is, show him the financial responsibilty you will have when this baby is born and let him know in order for the baby to have everything he/she needs he has to work at least part-time. And don't get married just because you are having a child, I really hate when people say that just because you are pregnant you need to marry the father. Marry for the right reasons, for love and companionship, not because of a baby on the way, it will only make things miserable in the end.
2007-03-14 22:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have the baby on the way and are doing things backwards you are going to have to find compromise in the way you all do things. Your BF does need to get an education so that he can provide for you, the baby and any furture children. It is one of those things since you didn't plan out a career first, marriage second, then children, that you have to deal with. I would highly suggest you two get married as well.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 22:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He CAN work and go to school fulltime! Tell him that! People do it all the time. He can attend fulltime night school and work during the day or vice versa. Tell him he MUST work or he must stay home with the baby while you work. End of discussion. If he refuses you go have a child support order put in place and you DUMP him!
2007-03-14 22:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋