Can you help me diagnose this condition.....?

Question

Lately I have been soul searching and I am looking for advice about my life. I was told I have a " personality disorder " of the Narcissistic type. Ive been wondering if thats true and what caused it. I have had a lot of trauma in my life but I sincerely do not feel Im in PTSD about it. I had cancer but Jesus healed me. I lost three deeply loved ones in the past yr or so but I know where they are in the arms of Jesus. I was badly injured in Jerusalem but so were many others. There was lots of panic all around and others were hurt much worse than me..I got some scars but I feel I am fine. I have had short memory lapses but quickly recover them. Some times I feel in shock momentarily because of all this trauma but I pray and it goes away. I do admit that today I was talking to a friend about some of this and I had a moment of this rushing overwhelming despair try to wash over me but I resisted and prayed and I was fine. I am wondering if Im oblivious or fine. Please advise

Answer 1

Bless your heart... my two sons have NPD... you by no means even sound that way. I just wish they could even ask what you are asking!... my prayers would be answered then!...People with NPD cannot change and will not. There is no medications either. I wanted to send you something I found that someone wrote yet I do not know who. ( I have copy and pasted this to many people and the feedback has been great) Although I had some nut tell me that I was being "un-considerate" because I copy/paste?...LOL!!.. oh well... I will send it to you and you can copy/paste/delete or whatever you would like. I hope it helps....It covers many aspects of everyone's life anyway....

Life & relationships

A time comes in your life A time, a moment whatever???? comes in your life when you finally get it (REALLY). When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is your awakening. You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter). and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you, and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance. You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are and its OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and in the process a sense of newly found confidence is born of self-approval. You stop bitching and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that not everyone will always be there for you, and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance. You stop judging and pointing fingers, and you begin to accept people as they are, and to over look their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness. You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you shouldn't weigh, what you should wear, where you should shop, what you should drive, how and where you should live, what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry, what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents. You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with, and in the process you learn to go with your instincts. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake. Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable, or important because of the man or woman on your arm or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love. and you learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms. Just to make you happy. And, you learn that 'alone' does not mean lonely. And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you "stack up." You also stop working so hard at putting feelings aside, smoothing things over, and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK. . . and that it is your right to want things that you want. and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands. You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and respect, and you will not settle for less. And you allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his or her touch. and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect. And you learn that your body really is your temple. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water, and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear, so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul, so you take more time to laugh and to play. You learn that, for the most part, in life you get what you believe you deserve. and that much of life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and its OK to risk asking for help. You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time: FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it, and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms. You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life happening. And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state - the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls. You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself. by yourself, and you try to make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart's desire. And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can. It's all about timing.

Answer 2

None of this sounds like narcissism to me, but I am no psychologist. It usually strikes a couple nerves every time I give my opinion on a psychological issue, but here goes anyway. This sounds like you may be experiencing depression to me. But, you may have other symptoms I don't know about. To me, depression is like the story about the two dogs. One is evil and one is good, and the one that wins is the one you feed the most. Well, with depression some people may choose to feed hapiness instead of giving in to despair.
Many people find comfort for loss in their religion and that is a great and positive thing. They are in a better place. It is normal to miss loved ones. When remebering those dearest to me that I have lost, I also focus on what great people they were and the best times we shared together. If negative thoughts cross my mind, I try to surround myself with people who make me laugh.
Another way to ward off the "mully grubs" (probably the most difficult), is to let go of negative things in your past. Start fresh each day. Today is a new day! It will be anything I choose to let it.
Where most people disagree with me, I don't believe medications are the answer to all problems (though they are for some). In some cases, I think they make matters worse. I believe we each have the power to be and do anything we choose. Everyone has a couple of personality flaws (we are human). Just "admit it, quit it, and forget it." Just because someone SAYS you are narcissistic or are depressed, even if it is true, it does not mean you have to carry that label for the rest of your life. If there are things about yourself YOU don't like, change them, move on and surround yourself with people, places, and whatever else brings you joy. I wish you peace, happiness, and love.

Answer 3

There may be some degree of PTSD there, but what you've written shows no sign of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I'd say there's probably not enough info here for a diagnosis.

Answer 4

Child of God you need to let yourself morn your losses, it is a natural need, let God be strong for you so you can heal . Stop trying to be in control, let go and let GOD.

Answer 5

You dont have NPD or you wouldn't be soul searching.

Answer 6

If you believe in fairytales (bible) that's exactly where you'll be stuck, in Fantasy-land.