how do i start trusting people after a lifetime of being betrayed?

Answer 1

When someone gets betrayed repeatedly and has a history of being hurt, they develop a hard, outer shell that masks their inner personality. This shell makes them defensive and sensitive to the slightest remark. Try to let down this outer personality and expose your inner self more. A good first step is to develop a close relationship with a friend that involves a lot of trust and respect. Start being more open when you are around people and talk about your personal life instead of generic small-talk topics. Slowly make more friends this way.

You'll find that most people are actually decent at heart and don't care about betraying others.

The reason you were betrayed when you were younger is that you made some bad friends with problems of their own, different from yours. They might have valued popularity over closeness and trust and used you.

You might be worried about letting your guard down around people. This is natural for someone not used to doing this. Be strong and be understanding of others if you want to develop a closeness with them.

I've had my fair share of betrayals of friendship and betrayed others myself when I was younger, of which I am ashamed of now. I learned that if I want to start trusting people, I would have to learn to lower my defenses and at the same time, have a strong inner self that was both positive, understanding, and funny, but at the same time tolerant and resistant to the terrible feeling you get when you are betrayed. Over time however, you will develop a more optimistic and positive self as your defensive side fades away. It is a great feeling to not have to have my guard up my whole life.

Answer 2

if you try to associate with other people, and they give you the same impression the last one did, which i assume was sincerity and trust, then you have to ask yourself, is he or she really full of crap, the answer is no, because people have their own insecurities and you cannot assume everyone is like that, dont let that one person (or many), whatever relationship you had make you live life in fear.

The question you gotta ask yourself is: how much longer am i gonna do this myself?

do i really think the world is a untrustworthy place? how people treat you is down to how you perceive and respond.

Another thing you gotta think is what is about you that is attracting this behaviour, the classic 'why me'!! mentality. Its almost like you are trying to give your power away, you could have a weakness and they will use for their own gain. maybe you should be more assertive, so you can give them the message "you wont fool me". I hope this helps. trust me :))))))))

Answer 3

Though it maye be hard, I believe the best thing to do is to start being positive. Look at the good side of things and stop being on the look out for the bad....that's exactly what you will find if you look for it.The danger of being negative may result in self fulfilling prophecy so defy the odds and avoid thinking too much about the dangers of being betrayed. It's part of life and you should soar above it.

Answer 4

Try not to give too much of yourself too quickly. Take time to get to know people. Have realistic expectations. Unrealistic expectations will always result in disappointment. Try to see the trees and not just the forest. All friends are not created equal. Learn to be your own best friend. Have respect for yourself and allow yourself to make mistakes. Don't be too hard on yourself. Keep an open mind and just live one day at a time.

Answer 5

Well you cant excatly trust all people.
People are going to betray you in life, but hey, thats life.
Watch your back on those you dont trust.
Just learn to accept and learn, you make milkshakes to learn right?

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-thanks

Answer 6

Why would you want to? Trusting someone doesn't necessarily mean you should give them ammunition to shoot
at you with. Go ahead and build trust with people who you think deserve it. Just remember to keep your secrets in reserve. There can be levels of trust too!

Answer 7

It's not going to be easy...
But you can't live your entire life guarded. You may be keeping the hurt out.. and that's fine and dandy.. but that also keeps the love out as well.

Trust isn't given; it's earned.