Am I over reacting? GIRLS ONLY. NO MEN....?

Question

My hubby is a type 1 diabetic. I went to the dr with his mom and himself. I went so I could hear what the dr had to say about his bloodsugar being high all the time. He goes in and the dr says one person only with u so he comes out and chooses his mother and leaves me in the waiting room for 1 hr. I got mad. he could have insisted I join but no why would he think of that? Am I wrong? REMEMBER GUYS I DON'T WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU. I DON'T WANT YOUR OPPION, WON'T EVEN READ IT! SO DON'T WASTE OUR TIME.

YES HE KNEW I WANTED TO HEAR WHAT THE DR HAD TO SAY. HE KNEW WHY I WAS THERE

Answer 1

You are his wife. He should have asked you in the room.. Not his mom.

Answer 2

I wud be mad as well.......You needed to hear what the Dr said more than his mother. After all ur the one who is living with him not his mother. What happens if something goes wrong and he goes into a diabetic coma and u don't know what to do and his mom is no where to be found? You wud be the one who cud help him before any help wud arrive.

Answer 3

Of course I'd be upset. well.. pissed! But.. I'm a mom. And even tho my kids are still young.. i dont care if they're 5 or 50, I'm still goin to try to take care of them. I want them to be heathly and live well. It would break your heart if something were to happen to him, it would kill her. She brought him into the world, loved and nurtured him from day one and no matter what.. he's more a part of her, than you. I realize parents have to cut the cord, but unless you're a mother, you'll never understand the love that they have for their children.. at any age. She was definately wrong by not involving you, but unless she just doesnt like you, i think it was just her heart breaking and her motherly instinct kicking in. You should talk to her about it once things settle down cuz it seems as tho you'll probably be dealing with these kinds of situations in the future and its better to work on a solution now, rather than when he ends up in the hospital again. Thats the WORST place to fight and not at all good for the patient. I'm sure that since he chose her.. she wasnt gonna say NO.. take her instead.. no no! But thats not her fault. You also need to talk to him. Maybe even slap him around a bit (after he's well) He definately should have chose you over her.. but maybe he feels she's more nurturing than you. I'm not trying to piss you off.. I'm just being honest cuz honestly.. i think my husband would chose his mom over me.. cuz I'm not as good of a wife as i should be. I'm a great mother.. and so is his mother.. but i dont cater to my husband and i probably should, and in delicate situations, even scary, its only natural for him to chose someone who'd have his best interests at heart. Find your place in your marriage and family. We can all use a little improvement.

Answer 4

Wow! you should really stop and listen to yourself...me me me...It's all about me! Do you even see that something Important and vital to your "hubby" Is goin on? Diabetes Is not anything to joke about, this man's life Is at risk and your mad because he didn't take you Into the room. I can see you have much support for him but why not let the woman that has been In his life and dealing with this for more years than you, support him and when their done you support him afterwards. Or Is there a time limit on support here? I'm sorry but that's stupid that you got mad because he picked his mother Instead of you! I would have Insisted that his mother go because I would be supporting my man not tryin to show people who his first pick Is.....good luck I hope you mature soon!

Answer 5

I'm giving you an opinion anyway. YOU'RE HUSBAND IS AN IDIOT & A MAMA'S BOY. You are his wife and you should be the one to hear all of his medical info. What happens if something goes down and you don't know how to react because you weren't allowed in the DR's office? Besides, what kind of idiot DR only allows one person in the room? Your man should have kicked his mom's *** out the door...........sorry if you don't like me answering but I agree with you.

Answer 6

He should have insisted both of you or none. But please try to look @ it from a different point of view.....his mom has had to help him w/ this from the very beginning when they got the news as a child probably. She has been the one there from the beginning and nursed him thru it for a long time. Diabetes is hard to get used to. When it is diagnosed it is something the whole family has to deal w/. It is life changing, requiring dietary upheaval that his whole family had to endure. Tell him how much it upset you, that you are there for him, but from now on you expect to be put before your mom-inlaw

Answer 7

I'm female...and even tho it seems rude for your husband to have done this, it may be that he feels his mom is more knowledgable about the family medical history. That DOES play a role in diabetes and the doctor would want this info. I came to this conclusion because there is a reason his mother went to the doctor at all with you and your husband. If it was just to drive she could have dropped you off, waited in the car or the waiting room...so I think he felt her knowledge of family medical history was important. Try not to let it bother you, or else ask him why he did it

Answer 8

Mummy should have stayed in the waiting room...or better yet, home. You are his wife...you override his mother. Maybe she knows more about his condition...since childhood? But still, once married the spouse should be the one involved in dr conferences. The outcome of the conference can then be revealed to parents, etc.

Answer 9

Wow, you are so right! I would be furious if my husband chose his mother to go in the doctor's office instead of me. You are the one he lives with. (I presume your mother-in-law does not live with you?) It would benefit both you and your husband for you to hear firsthand what the doctor had to say. You would be helping your husband by knowing exactly what his limitations are, medicines he is supposed to take when he is supposed to do so, what he is supposed to avoid, etc. Most wives also plan and cook meals for their family, with special care given to those meals for diabetes.. Obviously, the better informed you are, the more help you could be to regulate his diabetes. After I got over being angry, I would ask him exactly why he chose his mother and not you. Tell him if his mother goes again with you both to his doctor appointment, she better take a good book to read because she is gonna be sitting in the waiting room by herself for quite a while. Stand firm!

Answer 10

I do not blame you at all, I would be very upset as well. You have every right in the world to be upset.

First, did he know why you were going and that you wanted to hear the doctor, etc.?

Men are usually clueless you know?

I think would definitely sit him down and talk to him face to face and one on one. I would tell him how that made you feel and tell him why you were there. You are his wife now. When a man marries he leaves his mom for his wife. Its time he does this for you.

If after you talk to him, he pulls a stunt like this again then you have even more right to rip his butt. So at least before getting too upset just assume he was clueless, tell him exactly how you feel, how it made you feel, etc... after that he has no excuse.

Answer 11

wow..thats a hard one. I think that you have every reason to be upset. I think that naturally you should have been the one that he chose. But maybe just maybe he was scared. not for himself but for you. Maybe he was worried that he really was going to reciev some bad news and did not want you hearing it from the doctor. I hope that everything works out. I also think that you need to talk to him and let him know that his actions botherd you deeply. I think that theres more to it. I dont think that he was trying to hurt you. Talk to him. He is the love of your life for a reason. Ihope that you guys are okay. Good luck sweetie.