I am sick of people telling me that being a lesbisn is either a sin or a phase. They think just because I am 14 I do noy know what my sexual orientation is. I just want someone to tell me I am NOT going to hell for loving who I do.
I would like it if some people could give me a *hug* and tell me either their experience or that I am not a bad person.
2007-03-14 13:55:53 · 13 answers · asked by Rory a 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
wow i'm 13 i'm straight but if i could see you i would give u a BIG HUMAGO HUG no one will go to hell for loving.No body not even god should say u should go to hell becasue you are who you choose to be and if i met u i would probably look up to u in so many ways because u are proud of who your are dont let people there horrible opinions block the road into wonderful life. HUG AGAIN
2007-03-14 14:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by swissqt55 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG girl I feel you. I told my mom I was bi and she said it was a phase. I'm like what the f uc k I'm 17 and I know I know myself better than anyone else. Like I have a gf now, and I know my feelings for her are real and I know I do love her. But yes being bi or gay or lesbian is a sin, everyone sins. You just have to accept that your sexual orientation is a sin. And no your not a bad person, its cool that you didn't try to be straight so mom and dad or even the ppl can accept you. You have the right to love any gender you like. Love shouldn't limited by whats in between someones legs.
p.s. *HUG*
2007-03-14 21:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not EVERYONE at 14 has a completely solidified identity, so those saying it's a phase may be sincere. Then again, perhaps it's not. You know you best.
Other than that, you aren't going to hell simply because there is no such place.
As for the church saying that being homosexual is sinful, you have the right to not attend that church. You aren't going to change them, and they don't like who you are, so why bother with them?
There are many religious paths to visit that don't view homosexuality as a sin. Some Christian churches are open and accepting. I'm a Pagan, and it's not an issue there.
Be the best you that you can be, and to hell with those who have closed minds and hearts.
--Dee
2007-03-14 21:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
*HUG* Honey, there is nothing wrong with you or who you love. The people with the problem are the one's judging you. As long as you try your best to be a good person, and as long as you're happy, there's no wrong there. You won't go to hell for being an open, honest, happy person. If it's who you are, then it's how you were made to be. Best wishes, and much luck to you! You're so young, don't let it get you down. Enjoy your life, and don't worry about other people's opinions. After all, yours is the one that really counts.
2007-03-14 21:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by brandi91082 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to hell. You are not a bad person for loving. People are lame and ignorant should for the most part be ignored. Times are changing though, I truly feel it will get easier for us in the not so distant future. Keep your head up, and don't let people have so much power over you that you end up questioning who you are.
2007-03-15 02:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people pass judgment on homosexuality it has alot more to do with them (and nothing to do with you) *hugs* At 14 I started to learn about my religious path (wicca) everyone said it was a phase but look at me now 22yrs and I'm still who I've always been.Alot of people will be harsh but if you try to live as close to your true self as possible then you'll find you'll be okay in the end : )
2007-03-14 21:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by rhaevyn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
*Hug* You are a great person. It only gets better after 14. At least you know who you are: it's worse to not even figure it out till 20 or later.
2007-03-14 23:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Emily H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to hell. Such a place does not exist.
Love is moral, expressing mutual love in a consensual manner is moral, even beautiful and good.
2007-03-14 21:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen, not everyone will no if they are gay at your age... but even if you are gay, you won't be damned to hell. god doesn't care if you are gay, straight, or bi. just follow your heart. you aren't a bad person. i myself am bi. *hug* (yes i did read the whole article, but that doesn't meen i wouldn't have said all that stuff about you not being a bad perdon and all)
I hope this answer helps.
2007-03-14 22:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Leon M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only u can decide if its a phase or not and its ok to love whoever u wish... it may hurt sometimes but its not wrong. i believe love is love
i myself am bi... i had the largest crush on one of my friends and constantly thought of kissing her... but i thought she was straight... but one day she told me that she thought she was bi. i was too shy to do anything.. but we ended up going out (long and humorous story as to how we ended going out). we dated for almost 6 months before we parted on friendly terms.. shes still my best friend and we're really close even tho we arn't lovers anymore...
*hug* i know how u feel.. don't worry yourself over what others think! they have their own opinions and if they feel as they should hurt or bully u for it then its their problem and they can go to h*ll... don't take anyones crap and believe what u want to believe.. love who u want to love!
2007-03-14 21:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Nightstalkr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋