She always say "a baby is gonna hold you back, and please don't have any more babies".She will be upset, but I do want another one soon. My kids are 3 and 1.i have my own car, job, and pay my own bills.I just dont want to hurt her.
2007-03-14 13:49:16 · 14 answers · asked by blackout74 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It is your life and your choice but I have to ask, Why dont you let the other 2 get a little older b4 introducing baby #3??
2007-03-14 14:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you should do is what you want to do. You said it yourself, you are 24 years old. You are an adult, and if your mother cannot accept that, then it is she who is trying to hold you back. And what exactly are you being held back from? Maybe your life's ambition is to be a mother, what would be so wrong with that??? If you are a responsible adult and not a drain on society, then what is the concern about having more children. I feel that if you are capable of adequately providing for the amount of kids you have, there should be no limit. The choice on how many children to have is the choice of the parents, NOT the grandparents. Her feelings should not even be considered in this decision because in reality it does not involve her. As your mother, she just wants what is best for you, but her idea of what is best for you may be different than your own. Just remember that ultimately it is your decision. Perhaps you should let her know that you are going to try to get pregnant again, that way she has time to deal with it before you spring the news on her that you are already with child.
2007-03-14 14:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that baby #3 makes a very big difference even though u think just one more wont be much different when u already have 2.
U r old enough to make your own decisions, so do what u want to do. But, I would talk to someone and ask them if what i heard was the truth. If it is, then perhaps waiting is a suggestion. U r still very young and have plenty of time to have children later than sooner.
Good luck to u hun.
2007-03-14 13:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom wants the best for you. That's the bottom line. She will be hurt a little at first but when that baby is here, she'll be so in love with the baby she'll soften toward you. As long as you can afford another child, I say do what you want to do. Make yourself happy first cause you have a lot of life ahead of you. Mom will be fine. I'm mom to 3.
2007-03-14 14:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll get over it. It's your family and your life, not hers. What's the difference between number 2 and number 3. Heck, number 1 should have held you back and it didn't, so what's the difference? I say forget your mom and let her deal with it. Why should you wait five or six years for your next baby just for your mom? Do what makes YOU happy!
2007-03-14 13:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you live with her? If the answer is no then why should she get upset. In the first place it's your life and in the second you have your own family. The decisions you make now involve your kids and spouse and not your mother.
She'll get over it if she does get upset.
2007-03-14 14:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Carmen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you are young to have three kids and all the responsibilities that go with it.But talk to your mom and find out her problem and try to resolve it because I got a feeling you are going to need her in the near future.
2007-03-14 13:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Miz Val 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not really her choice unless you depend on her for care and or money for the ones you have. Do you live with her? Weigh the pros and cons and decide if this is the right decision for you.
2007-03-14 13:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lil'Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should sit down with her and tell her why u want the baby and all the reasons why u think thats ok. if shes still against it tell her your sorry, u wish she would aprove, but that u are going to do what ever u decide wether she wants u to or not.
2007-03-14 13:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you should do things for yourself, but if you're not married I would say not to have anymore right now.
2007-03-14 16:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by aprilmommy06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋