World of Warcraft....?

Question

My husband is completely and uterly obsessed with this game. I play it too but he demands he gets his 14 hours a week in gameplay and ignores my son and I. I know our son is biologically not his, but he calls himself daddy and we do to. But enough is enough. I put a password on the computer just so he wouldn't play it. I offered family counseling for our problems such as this and he told me, "If I have to pay $14.99 a month for a game I can't play then we can't go to counseling!" He flat ignores us and I feel a bit lonely. I told him he'll find me on desperate housewives one day and he said he didn't care. Our son is 2 and doing the cutest things and he ignores them all! Our son will climb on the back of the couch and almost fall but my hubby doesn't care. He'll yell at us and tell us what we're doing wrong, but he won't pay attention to us. Help! Please!

Answer 1

I have been through this with my hubby too.



Set him down and explain exactly how you feel.
ASK him how he sees the situation.

He very well might see it this way:

1.) He does not spend that much time online.
2.) If he does spend time with you- what would you do? watch TV? ah gee, how special. The game is more fun
3.) You are nagging him. He is relaxing. Give him a break.
4.) 14 hours a week is only 2 hours a day. Other people play WAY more then that.


You very well may see it this way:
1.) He spends WAYYY too much time online
2.)If he spends it off line- yes, you may only be watching TV- but you would be together and physically near each other.
3.) You are not nagging- you are REPEATING since he does not seem to hear or understand.
4.)14 hours a week is the same as a PART TIMEJOB!- but he's making no money- but blowing the monthly subcription and maybe even buying gold to buy items in game


Now- try to find a mid point

1) He is spending too much time playing if it is causing a problem. Enough said. Problem= too much. plain and simple.

2.) If he feels his time off the computer is not wisely spent with the family- ask him to come off for quality time. Watch a special movie with special treats and make an occasion of it- or go out to chucky cheese.

3.)He DOES hear you- he is just choosing not to respond. Say it once- and mean it. Let him know that he is causing you pain. Start documenting the amount of time he has spent online what exactly what he has missed.
Stop talking and start communiating with other means
Stop bringing him dinner. Log his times online, and just present him with a report of what he is missing.

4.) I know people who spend 8 hours a DAY online EVery day- and more hours a day on the weekends. I would often see my husband only in the computer room from 5pm when he got home until I went to bed at night.
14 hours is NOTHING. Please keep that in perspective.
Perhaps you can ask him to consolidate that time on 2 days and leave one several days totaly WOW free.


GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

World of Warcraft, as well as all other video games, can become extremely addictive. Don't just restrict his access. It is very hard to just give up an addiction cold turkey. Instead, talk to him while he is NOT playing, and discuss how it is hurting your family. Maybe discuss weening him off of the game and having him spend more time with your son. If he truly cares about you, he will listen.

Answer 3

welcome to the world of warcraft community.

many players act like this and become so sucked into the game that they completely blow everything off. many of my friends became like this and that is why i never started playing even when everyone else seemed to.

you need talk with him about how it seems like a computer game is dominating his life. tell him its not a good thing especially since he is a father and a husband. kids in my high school act like this and a grown up shouldnt. revoke his account if you have to