There is this woman I know. She has said to me that she can't stand it when she is hanging out with someone or a bf and there isn't a conversation going on. Her oldest brother got kicked out of the house at a young age. But she is still living with her parents. She comes from a large family of 4 she is the second oldest. She also told me about when she was fishing with her dad that she caught something and her dad didn't help her instead her dad helped her brother and she lost the fish. Another time she told me she was hunting with her dad and there was a dead buck and she fell into some muddy water. She also seems to get mad whenever its at the end of when we were hanging out.
I just want to understand this woman and want her to be happy. She keeps sticking in my head and I just want some answers to better understand this person.
2007-03-14 13:24:17 · 8 answers · asked by Jackel 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Her present condition seems to be due to lack of support from her parents and lack of confidence that there is someone who can help her. To come out of such situations one needs confidence building support like one person who helps her in getting her day to day problems solved. You can request your sister or wife(in case you are married) to befriend her and try to get her open up and tell everything she thinks is going out of her control. In short she is in dire need of some good friends.
2007-03-21 21:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by sb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind a simple. Shes looking to be accepted by men mostly her dad. She basically wants to be one of the guys and probably wishes she were born a male instaed of female especially when it comes to her family. She gets mad at the end of a conversation because she didnt control the outcome of it as probably what happened around your house with dad and brothers. Until she learns to be herself and be happy with it, she will always be a very sad and mistrusting person. She associates everyone with her dad who controlled her life and she doesnt like it and has hidden regrets against her dad inside. Professional help could do her wonders but only as long as the help is female. Hope this helps without going into extreme detail on here
2007-03-14 20:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like, she has a problem of hanging out with guys. when ur hanging out with her and don't talk she thinks there's something wrong with her or she did something bad to upset you. the reason why is because each time she wanted approval from her dad he didn't say anything to her really. like when she caught the fish her dad didn't even looked at her.
now if u have been seeing her a lot u can tell her she looks beautiful or if u ran out of a few things to say ask a question about her or go to the movies, see a comedy one. try making jokes,if ur funny. but just try to be there for her but don't make it seem like u feel sorry for her. u know flirt with her get to know her a lot.
the reason way she gets mad when u have to leave because she doesn't want to leave u. she's having too much fun to go or she just wants to be with you. you make her feel better, you know
2007-03-14 20:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen and don't condemn her. She is a person like anyone else. From the information you have provided, it sounds like she carries some disappointment related to her father, and that her home life was chaotic. As your relationship progresses, you will enter the power struggle stage, in which each of you seek to plant your family of origin patterns on your home life. You might want a quiet home, and she might want a loud home. Can your family of origin patterns find compromise, or are you already doomed?
2007-03-14 20:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by OTTO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever suspected that she has a mental health issue and that may be the reason that she is still at home? She sounds complicated for lack of a better word. What makes you want to be around her.... better question is what makes you feel responsible for her happiness? A good therapist would be good for her to help her understand herself and begin to be more independent.
2007-03-14 20:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't butt in. Women hate it when they're depressed and want to be left alone and someone tries to help.Only their closest friends can help...well not really, but they're the only ones she wants around.If she doesn't tell you to leave her alone, then try maybe taking her to a councelor.
2007-03-14 20:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be with someone. Obviously her dad has traumatized her in his own ways and she's going to you to feel safe and to not be lonely and unprotected. At least that's my opinion.
2007-03-14 20:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by I 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person like all persons is a mystery incapable of understanding.... accept her as she is, that is the best.
2007-03-14 20:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋