and Im kinda embarrassed cause te guy I am seeing is older than me (im27) and I dont want to look like a dipshit in front of him, but I want him to enjoy things too.
I know I seem kinda old to not have much experience there, but I dont like my body and would rather have him on me so I cant see it.
Anyways, I dont know how to deal with this as I dont want to seem like a loser to him and he wants this!
Any ideas?
Will he think im ugly?
2007-03-14 13:20:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your that freaked out about it just wear some PJ's!
2007-03-14 13:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me he won't think you are ugly. He is already sleeping with you and weathr you know it or not has "seen" your body with his hands, lips ect. If he didn't find you sexually attractive he would have stopped sleeping with you. When i was with my husband i felt the same way you do so i know where you are coming from. The guy i was with after my divorce changed that. It was a position he really liked and one i ended up loving just as much. Be honest with him and tell him how you feel and that you don't have a lot of experience. If he cares about you he is not going to make you feel stupid about it. He will probably take it very well since most guys would rather have a woman who is inexperienced that one who has been with a ton of men. Ask him to help you make it pleasurabel for him. He will be very happy to help. Good luck and enjoy the learning. You may discover how much fun it can be. Try not to be so self concious about your body. Once i got over hating my body becaue it isn't perfect i have found that the confidence i have in myself is a huge turn on to my boyfriend.
2007-03-14 20:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen... Here is the bottom line. Do you really want to be with someone who is THAT shallow and judgemental ?? And not for nothing, but he should have a pretty good idea of what you look like already. And unless the guy is a total @$$h0le, he wont think your ugly. You may see yourself as not-so pretty, but he may think your gorgous. Have some confidence about the way you look. I'm sure your more beautiful then you give yourself credit for.
2007-03-14 21:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by dralls4lyf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wont seem like a loser to him...the less experience you have the more attractive you are to him...put a pillow under his butt to enhance the pleasure...lights out is the best but if you need light, light a tealight candle and put it on the other side of the room. the shadows hide any flaws on our body. you won't be worried about what you look like as the feelings and heat of the moment take over, anyway. relax and enjoy. its very liberating to be in control of the movements....
2007-03-14 20:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about your age what you are "supposed" to have experienced by now. This has to do with your body image! If the man wants to have sex with you, obviously he finds you attractive! YOU need to work on being ok with YOU! Enjoy yourself and the all the good feelings your body gives you. If you are REALLY concerned with it - light ONE candle in the room or wear a sexy little nightie that can easily slip off your shoulders yet cover whatever you are insecure about!! Being on top feels wonderful - its an wonder-woman position!!!
Take a shot of tequila, let go of your hang-ups and saddle up baby!
2007-03-14 20:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you're uncomfortable but like we've all said in the heat of the moment everything is Rosy. If you are uncomfortable about the way you look, why don't you wear something sexy? It'll be a turn on for him and it'll cover those areas that embarrass you.
2007-03-14 20:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Cher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do it and don't worry about it. Looking foolish is no big deal during sex. If you do something wrong, he will help you get it right. It's all about practice. To a man, you really can't go wrong trying new sexual things. Just go with it and don't think about it.
2007-03-14 20:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing that he has in mind is the great sex he'll be having with you, he wont care too much about your body. So dont worry, its not your first time is it?
2007-03-14 20:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by =) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rent the movie called "8 SECONDS".
Its about bull riding in a rodeo. That should get you all fired up and then after the movie, mount him just like they do in the movie and ride, ride ride.
just have fun.
every once in a while pinch his nipple so he doesnt finish to fast,, HA.
2007-03-14 20:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
will he think you are ugly?
i say no he won't, you are in a relationship already so i would say it's evidence that he likes or loves you now
also pretty sure that if you try it you'll like it, (being on top means you have more control to move as you like)
just my answer but what do i know...lol
2007-03-14 20:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by just my answer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dim down the lights and wear a lingerie that makes you feel sexy.. This will take off that inferiority complex that you're experiencing.. Then Crash! Boom! Bang! There you go man!
2007-03-14 20:25:32 · answer #11 · answered by I_fell_in_love_with_a_Pussycat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋