Dave & Linda are in a 5 year relationship & both mutual friends of mine. They have a 2 year old son together & often have lack of babysitters. To avoid angst of going out with 1 and the other staying home to babysit, I'll go visit them at home. They are wrong fits from the start though, constantly arging, nit-picking, and bickering (which strangly works for them...). Having known both of them forever, I find myself even getting into it; "Linda, you did actually say that to him" or "Dave, you do that all the time." which I Know I shouldn't, but when you've know people this long & listen to it so much, it's hard not to join in. I've asked them to try not arguing while I'm there cause it makes me uncomfortalbe but it's like asking them to stop breathing, just isn't going to happen. I need some major suggestions on how to maintain a 3rd party point of view & stay out while still being their friend & being there for them.
2007-03-14 13:16:34 · 2 answers · asked by Meg 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When they start arguing just leave. Eventually they'll get the hint.
2007-03-14 13:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't do it. You want them to simply stop....and yet you can't do it either?
2007-03-14 20:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋