last year my so called best friend and my boyfriend slept together and got pregnant. After the baby was born she asked me to be its godmother. Of course I said Hell no. Today the baby turned 1 and she asked me to come to its first birthday party. And again of course i said no
Now I'm with an amazing guy named Pat, whose totally on my side about everything. He's the best friend, and boyfriend ever.
My ex-boyfriend hates his childs mother (of course) and hes trying so hard to get back into my life. I feel like he has changed and everybody says that he has. But I dont know what to do?
I mean I hate her, but I dont know whether or not if i hate him anymore.
help!
2007-03-14 13:13:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They both cheated on you, they had a baby together. Why forgive him & not her? If you get back together with him are you then going to start being around his child?
If the guy you're with is a great guy don't ruin it with someone who did that to you.
2007-03-14 13:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be hypocritical of you to think she's the "bad guy" when it was your best friend AND BOYFRIEND who cheated on you. Just because the baby popped out of her, doesn't mean that he isn't 50% of the problem.
And why does he "hate" the child's mother? To get on your good side -- he thinks he can make her the bad one.
Obviously he didn't "hate" her enough when he had sexual intercourse with her enough times for her to get pregnant (believe me, they did it more than once, no matter what he says).
Forget about both of them and move on. You don't need a cheater in your life, or even a single dad. If you care for Pat, you'd get out of the situation, tell the BFs to move on and that you are not interested.
Being "friends" with exes isn't for everyone. In this case, it's too complicated because he still has feelings for you. Don't screw things up with Pat. Get this other guy out of your life!
2007-03-14 20:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Just K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if you get back with him it would be a bad bad mistake. My ex did the same thing , but he didn't get the girl pregnant. That just makes it worst. Not only did he disrespect you by sleeping with your friend, but he didn't even protect himself, what if it was someone else, or what if you caught something. That's foul as I dont know what! I wouldnt even want him back if I were you. Despite the fact he so called changed or whoever says, once a cheater always a cheater. You should hate him just as much as you hate her. That was yo dude. It's too many guys out here who know how to treat a girl right, shake it off, and be with the guy that makes you happy.
2007-03-14 20:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by alonnac20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, ur ex boyfriend's totally regretting now... but damages has been done. You said too that you're with this guy who is truly amazing. I say, you stick with this Pat first, go on with the flow. About ur ex, just be-friend him, and let him learn to gain your trust again. Who knows, after some time, you too will be close and be the best of friends.
Good Luck!
2007-03-14 20:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand! Are you saying that you are thinking of dumping this amazing guy Pat to get back together with your no-good cheating ex-boyfriend the 2nd he gives you the nod that he's ready to let bygons be bygons?
You hate her, you hate her innocent child, (at least you act like you do) but you are willing to forgive him, & risk a relationship with an "amazing guy".
Don't know what to do? Here's a suggestion. Stay focussed on what is good in your life, & try to learn from your mistakes.
2007-03-14 20:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not hold on to hate - it will only make you miserable.
Don't hate either of them, just let them go. Tell them what is going on in your full, happy life and that you no longer have any need or desire for either of them to be involved in it. Wish them the best of luck in their future endeavors, and do it all with a smile on your face.
Then move on, no need for further contact.
2007-03-14 20:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not go back to him if you feel you are with some one better and as a guy speaking it is his falt and tell him he peed in his bed fix it or get over it becouse he is not going to change he will hurt you again and try to move on to another. even thou he still might have some thing for you dont do it girl you are better off. hope i helped becouse i have been in his spot before
2007-03-14 20:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by jesse m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with Pat , the child will always be there and always be his and hers, if you hook back up with him you will have to see and be around the child, no need in putting your self in that kind of pain. its best you found out now
2007-03-14 20:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋