I'm bored at home with my kids ( 2 and 4) . I'm a nurse, do you think I should put them in preschool and work or should I stay with them?
2007-03-14 13:10:33 · 12 answers · asked by violet 3 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Lebanon
Well............
That happened to me some years ago.........but as I'm a teacher, I had to go back to work after 3 months.. I had not choice.. I got a girl to take care of them for the hours i was out of home, and even my mom helped me. I was with them all the rest of the day.
I think I made the correct...They were my kids............but i needed to feel that i was a person, a useful one and to have some time for me and what i loved to do. They grown up healthy and i made what i liked. Everyone is happy now. I have been a good mom, and I dont regret of anything.
If you feel that you are not happy all the time...........then go ahead and work, may be you can make it half time if that makes you feel better.
2007-03-14 13:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by حلاَمبرا hallambra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well its depens on some situations
1- Do you need the money
2- Can your kids be away long enough without you
3- As a nurse you will have to change shifts all the time, which means your schedule is not balanced
4- Are you that bored???
Im against a woman staying home, its boring and it will make her feel depressed, since we have many solutions to keep our kids in preschool or a nanny at home then i say yes what the hell, you should feel that you are wanted and that you can give help to others than your family, maybe you will get to be a senior nurse at the end
Good luck
2007-03-15 00:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a question you need to answer. I understand how you feel. I felt the same way. Maybe you could work part time and put them in a nursery school. That way you all get the best of both worlds. You get to leave the house and interact with other adults and the kids will learn invaluable social skills being with other kids. Yet you will still be home most of the time. If you could maybe work 2-3 days a week for about 4 hours.
2007-03-14 20:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a pretty hard thing to decide but it all depends on you. I know how it is staying at home with two kids, you miss work and social contact with adults...but the thing is, can you handle going back on your nurse schedule which is tough for a Mom of two small kids...do you have someone to help you out at home, like your Mom or sister...etc...and will have to count on your husband to keep an eye on the kids sometimes.
So you have to weigh all this against you going back to work...so if you can do it and if it's worth it then go for it.
Good Luck on whatever you chose.
2007-03-15 00:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try it part time at first, if the finances work out that way. It is a good thing for the children to learn social skills at an early age, just as long as they aren't spending too much time away from you.
Being a nurse, at least as far as I know, the money is pretty good, but if the hours start to get long and time starts getting crunched it isn't worth it. That is why I said start with part time first.
Also, have you thought about trying some "getting out time" with your children? Some areas have groups for stay at home moms to venture out and meet other stay at home moms and let the children play with one another. Libraries may have reading time for young children....
Good luck and take care!
2007-03-14 20:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should part time if you want to but not till the younger one is at school. that way you escape any guilt and avoid someone else bringing up your kids for you. Thats what I would do. Just try and keep yourself busy and make sure your husband helps you out, gives u space to be violette, not mummy and not someones wife, this is really important.
Good answer Smutty and Ghanouje, you made me proud!
Toushka
2007-03-15 08:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by .... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. Maybe it would be reasonable to think that you could do both -- stay at home with the children part time and work part time. I was able to do this successfully and it has paid off. While we want and need to be home with the children when they are small, believe me, it's when they are older that they really need you around.
2007-03-14 20:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by managermom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then you will need a daycare or family to help all so the cost is it worth it stay home and be with your kids this is the most important time to bond when they are in school then you can go back to work
2007-03-14 20:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by KJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with kids, but try to figure out a job u can do from home.
2007-03-14 20:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kingo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you are saying that you are bored so you want to go back to work.
I suggest you give it a try. Yes why not? If it works then everybody will be happy. If not, you can go back and spend time with your kids.
It is not true that working mothers cannot spend time with their kids.
In addition you yourself will be more satisfied financially (despite your family's current financial situation).
Hope this helps.
2007-03-15 03:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Smutty 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋