Ok, im a total clean freak! I like my house clean all the time. My boyfriend on the outhand never cleans and it doesnt bother him if the house is just totally trashed.
I try getting him to help me. I ask him to do stuff, and he'll do the one task (poorly) and then stop. I'll be scrubbing the house, and he'll just sit and watch me and play his video game... What should I do to get him off his lazy butt? Its beginning to drive me insane. I do all his laundry. If I dont, then he will wear dirty clothes (GROSS!) every dish could be dirty and he still wouldnt do dishes. Its really becoming a pain for me!
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-14 12:46:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
My husband is the same, unfortunately, I will have the place spotless and he will come home and throw his clothes on the floor, spill stuff everywhere, the next day I have to start all over again! There isnt really all that much for you to do about it I am afraid, some people are neat, others are messy, and you cant change that.
2007-03-14 13:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might make him mad but take his video game away from him and hide it until he cleans something. Those video games can become very addictive to the point where you don't care about anything. Does he work or go out at all? I know you think that wearing dirty clothes is GROSS but stop doing his laundry and trust me eventually he'll do it. I mean after wearing the same clothes over and over again he'll think it's gross too. The next time he wants to eat serve it to him on a dirty dish, that will make do the dishes. In other words, GO ON STRIKE!
2007-03-14 20:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Opposites attract. It's completely normal you are attracted to this guy, but, this could be the breakup. He has a different agenda than yours and no amount of urging, begging, or demonstrating will change that. Believe me, I'm a cleanie and I married a messy. After 16 years, there's little to no improvement. Either accept circumstances the way they are, or find a new boyfriend. On that note, acceptance in this area can lead to others and if you value the relationship, this could be a turning point. But, like losing weight and keeping it off, it's a daily decision you have to make.
2007-03-14 19:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by dwilmoth822 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad part is, you can not always change a person. My first wife did not clean at all and I did all the house work, plus held down 2 jobs. I ended up finally leaving her. You could set him down and tell him how you honestly feel about his not helping with out criticizing him about it. Set up a schedule on cleaning to do and have him take on different chores each time and tell him that after the work is done, he can play his video games. Tell him that it is not fair that you are doing all the work, if he cares for you he should start helping out
2007-03-14 20:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Gary S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a psychiatric diagnosis and you have driven him nuts. I lived with you for 18 yrs. My mother. I like clean too. Don't do his laundry just spray it with Febreze. Washing dishes by hand is not sanitary, get a dishwasher. One of you needs to move. You are totally incompatible.
2007-03-14 19:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok you can break up with the guy and find someone more clean. Or you can Tell him to help clean or your throwing out his stuff.
2007-03-14 19:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by crazy_elf_220 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very Good in cleaning and general house keeping [ other things also]. Are you willing to find your solution by changing your boy friend.
2007-03-14 19:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by cnsone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only clean the things you need put all his stuff in one corner and dont touch him till he wears clean clothes and cleans up. give him one space and put all his filth there including him and if he wants to be dirty tell him to keep it contained to his space
2007-03-14 23:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose the zero and get with a hero!
That is gross. Try bribing him with sex. That would work for me.
2007-03-14 19:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE IT! SERIOUSLY. IF YOU DON'T WASH THE DISHES EVENTUALLY HE'LL HAVE TO. IF YOU DON'T WASH HIS CLOTHES EVENTUALLY HE'LL HAVE TO AND IF YOU DON'T COOK HE'LL HAVE TO OR STARVE! IF THAT FAILS YOU COULD ALWAYS APPEAL TO HIS INNER CHILD AND BRIBE HIM. OR HIDE THE FUSE FOR THE COMPUTER. IF THAT FAILS YOU MAY AV TO CALL IT QUITS AND PUT UP WIV IT OR LEAVE HIM!
2007-03-14 19:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by LouLou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋