ok so i am 8 weeks pregnant an i told my mum 2 weeks ago and she was fine with it and then my boyfriend and i had an argument after he told his parents and he told mr that he didn't want the baby. so my mum had to deal with me being upset and trying to figure out what i want to do!! then my bf said he was sorry and that his parents are ok with it now and that he wants me to have the baby! so i told my mum that i was going to have the baby and she went on and on about how my bf will just end up running away from this again i dont believev that he will but she does.. now she thinks i should have and abortion.. i know that my bf and i can make this work but mum doesn't see that she wants me to have an abortion and she even consider what i want!! btw i am 17 and my bf is 20.. what should i do????
2007-03-14 12:39:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Girl...right now...forget you mum, your boyfriend and his parents. This is YOUR CHILD growing in YOUR BODY!!!! What do you want??? Never do something you don't want to do. I can't believe your mom wants to send you to a butcher shop to kill her grandchild. And who knows...the dad may or may not be there; but maternal instinct will kick in and you will be a great mother to your baby. Just remember to think of yourself and your child. That baby is in there. It has a heartbeat and moves. Trust in God and you will be taken care of! Prayers for you!!!
2007-03-14 12:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Silver B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both quite young and you really need to sit down together to talk about the pros and cons. Abortion should be your choice, think hard, if he does leave are you ready and capable of taking care of this child as a single parent? Sometimes abortions are the right choice since you are young. I know more than one girl that deceided that a child at that age wasnt the right thing to do and got an abortion and does not regret it now. One is with kids and married and the other in a long term relationship without any kids at the moment. Think about what you want your future to be. Will you be able to accomplish what goals you have with a child or without one.
2007-03-14 19:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tita Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision that you must make, not your mother, your bf's parents, me, or the little man that lives down the road. You should not have an abortion though no matter what but I am pro-life and that is the way that I stand. That is a whole different story though. This is a huge decision to make and if you even second guess it then it is not the right one for you. YOU must decide no one else.
2007-03-14 19:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your mom to kiss your A$$, and that its not her decision to weather or not you make a life changing decision like abortion. tell your mom that if she doesnt want to support your decision to have a baby simply because of a man then that makes her no better then him!!!! If you B/F is sorry for what he said then believe him, give him the benefit of the doubt!! Finding out that your pregnant can be scary for some people, some people just need a little time to take it in!!! If you have the support of his parents it will make it easier.. If my mom ever said something like that to me, I would be so disappointed in her!!! Tell your mom that.. if she ever brings that remark up about abortion. Use the word disappointed with her, I bet that will hit home with her!! good luck, and please.. no abortion... Abortion is such a mental obstacle that is a B***h to get over!!
2007-03-14 19:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Fashion Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is perfectly normal for your boyfriend to have doubts being he is so young. but of course i dont know how he is. maybe your mom is right that hes gonna walk out on you maybe shes not. you are legally old enough to make this decision on your own so i suggest that you do what YOU feel is right and screw everybody else. besides once your mom finally realizes that you are going to keep the baby(if thats what you want anyways) no matter what she will have no choice but to get over it and believe me she will. i had my first child at a young age and when i told my mom that i was pregnant she said "well i don't have the money to pay for an abortion" i told her that abortion was totally out of the question and she got used to that and now she absolutely loves her first grandson!
2007-03-14 19:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by moore_256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby. Forever you will wonder what that baby will be like and you will never know... if you REALLY can't handle it put it him/her up for adoption and then you might have a chance to meet your child. Or of course it is always best to raise it and love it to your fullest ability. To me abortion is murder. Your killing a living thing. If you really weren't ready for a baby then you should have thought about the consequences before you had sex. It will be hard to have it but have the baby. You will feel much better knowing that you didn't MURDER your own child.
2007-03-14 19:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all dont have an aboration if u really decide not to have the baby give it up for adoption...i had my first child at 16 and both his and mine parents wanted me to have a aboration but thats not what i wanted nor him so we fought so hard to keep her...its ur choice ur life dont let ur mom influence you on doing something u dont want ur mom will get over it especially once the baby is born trust me...now ur bf is a jerk for telling u he ddnt want the baby but its always good that he came back and if u reallt believe he wont do it again then noone can change that good luck and i hope u dont abort
2007-03-14 19:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by **Mami of 2 Girls** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huni it sounds as though you want to keep the baby , and its your decision so you do that!!
its not your mums choice and if you do what she wants and not what you want you will end up regretting it for your whole life.
you are only a year or so younger than me, im 35 weeks pregnant, and i'm not with the babies father, i'm managing fine.
hopefully your bf will stick by you but even if he doesn't you will manage.
good luck and take care.
2007-03-14 19:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by kimberley123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is YOUR baby, not your mom's. I personally don't believe in abortion (and I can't imagine life without my little baby) but that's not the point. This is your decision- if you think you can handle it (with or without your boyfriend) then go for it.
2007-03-14 19:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very personal decision that only you can make. Keep in mind it is your decision and you are the one who will have to live with the decision you make. You mother can have her opinions but what really matters is what you want and what you think is best. If you think you and your bf can make it then you should do what you want.
2007-03-14 19:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by pregogirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋