I found out 2 days ago that we're pregnant (surpise!) with #2. We were planning on getting pregnant at the end of this year... but I don't feel like I'm excited enough about it. (Don't get me wrong, I'm happy about it) Was getting pregnant with #2 different for you than #1?
2007-03-14 12:20:37 · 8 answers · asked by applesoup 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Of course I love my baby-- My question is, how was finding out you're pregnant with #2 (or a surprise baby) different from #1 for you?
2007-03-14 12:25:41 · update #1
You go through stages just like grief. First there's denial. Was the test really accurate? Maybe I should go to the store and buy a dozen more tests, just to make sure. Then you go through FEAR. Fear lasts a long time. How can we afford a kid? Will I be a decent parent? What about work? Oh god, what if I miscarry? Then there's excitement. Oh my god, we're really doing this! You'll gravitate from fear to excitement for the rest of the pregnancy. Don't feel bad because you aren't doing cartwheels. That will come with time. But a surprise baby is a life-altering event, and you need to give yourself time to come to terms with it. You'll be happy about it, though, I promise.
2007-03-14 12:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
All three of mine were Surprises. I've had a different reaction from i can't wait (2nd one) to what in the world are we going to do (#1, hubby is military and we found out the day before he left) and with this third one our first reaction was can we handle a third so close to the other two. We're happy we have all of them and are awaiting #3's arrival. Each child is there own person and how you react to each will be different. As long as your not thinking of hurting yourself then your fine. Good Luck and congrats on your sooner then planned addition. ((we were going to try for 3 starting july 07, baby #3 due june 07))
2007-03-14 19:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by jalopina98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thig happen to me, l fell pregnant not long after l had my first daughter (5 months to be exact)
My partner and l were not counting on having a second child for a few years but it was a MAJOR shock to us. I looked into abortion as l didn't think l would be able to cope with two kids 14 months apart, when l got the information sent out to me and read all the horrible stories to my partner it came to light that there was no way l was going to put my body through that!
It was a stressfull 8 months after that and depression kicked in but then it was one day that l thought it would be great for them to grow up so close together and be good friends. Still freaked out abit when she was due but the day she was born l have never felt happier than to have gone through with the pregnancy. I now have a 18 month old daughter and a 4 month old daughter and we have never been happier. So to answer your question... it's scary at first to have to think to look after 2 but it's the best feeling in the world to know that you are the ones that created them both. It gets hard sometimes but it's all worth it in the end!
2007-03-14 19:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by lisa * 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My reaction was, "At last! I can get this over with!"
Not the most... acceptable of reactions, I know. I am one of the few women I know who does not enjoy being pregnant (I'm far too vain and hate feeling my body morph out of my control), so I view pregnancy as the waiting period between two good things: the getting and the having of children.
This pregnancy is going better than my first one, mostly because I know what to expect--and I'm not drowning my sorrows in Ben & Jerry's and giving myself gestational diabetes. Other than that, I don't feel much different. I'll admit to being more excited about this one than I was about my first... but I think that's because I have more people to share the experience with.
2007-03-14 19:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cried the whole first week when I found out I pregnant ( it was a big surprise.) After about a month of adjusting I'm starting to feel better about it. Give yourself a little time for the shock to wear off, you'll get excited again. Good luck.
2007-03-14 19:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Freaked out 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is cool ! I have 3 great children that I would not give up for anything. the more the better!
2007-03-14 19:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
every pregnancy is different. Some your happy and someyour not so happy. Just depends on you and your circumestances.
2007-03-14 19:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love your baby.
2007-03-14 19:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by luna 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋