im pregnant with my second my first is 8 months and my husband & i are not financially set what to do?abortion

Question

i WAS on birth control !!!!! and i dont want an abortin i am totally against it ! my husband suggested it..but doesnt want it either..

Answer 1

Abortion is not the answer. When you went for your 6 week check-up, why didn't you get on birth control, if you knew you couldn't afford another? Or for that matter, why not anytime in the last 6 months?

Answer 2

My daughters are 15 months apart. I cried for my whole first trimester and we had no clue what we were going to do... but as the pregnancy went on, I began to grow attached to the new little life growing inside me, and I realized how stupid I was to be so worried about anything other than caring for my children. My husband left his job to stay at home because mine pays more, and we have had to do without a lot of things, but there is nothing in this world or the next that I would ever do to change having both of our wonderful, beautiful baby girls. Having two under two is definitely an experience... but it's been one of the best, most exciting & rewarding experiences of my young life so far. They are so precious and get along so well (even though they have recently began fighting too lol... wow). I can't imagine living life any other way :)

Know that people have children close in age every day, and make it just fine. It is definitely possible. Take a realistic look at the life you lead now, and come up with ways to cut costs and budget with a new little one. We re-used all the oldest's clothes and shoes. I breastfed the youngest as long as I could before work-induced stress called for supplementing. We bought a membership at Sam's Club so we could buy diapers & wipes & the powdered formula in bulk, as well as items like milk, bread, and boxed/canned foods such as mac n cheese, oatmeal, frozen meats, etc. and bought a deep freezer to store things in long-term to help cut costs of food. Hubby has been a stay-at-home Dad for a year and a half now, and has only recently taken on a part-time job working nights to get him out of the house & bring in some extra funds since the youngest is now a year and a half. It CAN be done... you just have to buckle down & do it :)

Congratulations on the pregnancy. Children are never a burden and ALWAYS a blessing :)

Answer 3

Well if your not for abortion then you have to think.. are you going to be able to mentally handle it when its all over? What if a couple of months down the road things turn around for you financially, then you will have the thoughts that maybe you didnt have to terminate your pregnancy after all!! There is other options! If you could bring yourself to have the baby you could make an unlucky woman the happiest person in the world!! Or if you really really want the baby you can get on Medicade to help you throughout the pregnancy, and since you already have an 8 month old that means you at least have some things to help you with the second baby!! And if you really want to save money buying things like swings, and playpens and cribs... check the newspaper, and garage sales... Their are people that have tons of stuff like that they are just wanting to get rid of. God never gives puts anyone in a situtaion they cant handle... You always have to tell yourself that!!!

Answer 4

To be honest i don't think anyone is ever financially set to have a child, but you will always manage to cope by cutting back in other ways. Are you sure you are not just using that as an excuse because you are not ready to have or do not want anymore children. I understand this is a tough decision for you, but it is one only you and your husband can make. Either way if you decide to keep the baby or have an abortion you are making a life changing decision, so make sure you both think about it long and hard and consider the consequences either choice will have.

Answer 5

No one is ever financially set when having a baby. No one is ever ready whether it be baby number 1 or number 10. Every child is different and each require different care whether it be emotionally or financially. Abortion is wrong. How can you look at your first daughter and then decide to get rid of a second one. Possibly one that looks just like the one you already have. THere are lots of people out there that would love to care for that child so you should really look into adoption.

Answer 6

Abortion you ask? This should not even be an option! I could be critical and say "You two could have prevented this pregnacy" but is beyond that and you two need to take resposibility for your actions, so please accept the fact that you two made a baby together, and that you are going to let this baby survive, and you will find a way to support this child together! Even though yoiu said you were on birth control keep this child, obviously you are pregnant for reasons beyond yours and your husbands control. Have this baby! Things will work out for your family.

Answer 7

Heh, who among us can actually afford to have children? Children are a blessing and there is a reason for each and everyone! Please do not abort the baby. There are a million ways to stretch a budget, you just have to be frugal. And don't be ashamed to take government help if you need it, that is what it is there for. Plus, with your first only being 8 months I can pretty much bet you've still got most of the baby things you will need.

Check out http://www.freecycle.org to join a mailing list where people "recycle" items they no longer need or want by giving them (exchange of money and trading is prohibited) to people who need them. It is awesome!

Also, breastfeeding is free. If you cannot or don't want to breastfeed there is always WIC. Matter of fact breastfeeding or not you should sign up for WIC. While you are pregnant it will pay for X amount of milk, cheese, peanut butter, etc for you. After the baby is born you continue to get your food supplements for so long (depending on whether or not you breastfeed) and the baby is eligible for Formula Vouchers the will pay for most of his/her formula. You should sign your 8 month old up. The program is for children up to 5 years old, it provides dietary staples. ALL states/cities have this program in the US. Contact your local Health Department to sign up.

Feel absolutely free to contact me if you need more money stretching ideas :) I was raised by my grandmother who grew up in the depression, so I learned from one of the best penny pinchers around! (Just click my pic on the left, email is enabled).

Answer 8

No don't get an abortion. Do you remember how you felt when you held your first child in your arms for the first time...would you ever give that up? Do you really want to kill your child? Yes, it IS murder..that is more than a fetus..it's a baby, growing in you..a beautiful baby that you will have no regrets over when you hold him/her in your arms in that delivery room. Don't worry, you will find a way to cope with your financial troubles. Maybe give up going out to eat every month or whatever luxury you give yourself. Or maybe ask your parents to loan you some money for the time being.

Answer 9

Not to be rude, but you should have been more responsible, both you and your husband. Do not even consider abortion, just because you "messed up". There is a life inside of you and you want to kill it because of money? Money is the root of all evil. My sister is 26 she has 4 kids, she never finished 7th grade and all her children are fine, they are in proper care and under someone else's care other than her's. Consider adoption.

Answer 10

I'm guessing you're not too far along yet, so you still have 8-9 months of preparing. I would just try to see about saving up and maybe getting help from friends and family members. I'm not going to tell you not to get an abortion, because that's your choice, but you should at least try to work out a plan for becoming financially stable.