Hi. Ok, it was a 4 year relationship, 5 if you include the last year. Things were rocky, very rocky. Then we parted. He flew to see me in the summer and we psent the summer together. After that we went opposite directions becuase of University...this was the first time we were away for serious reasons. When we were apart, I found some things out abt him that upset me, and I suffered a mental breakdown in Sept. He didnt know how to console me, and left me to myself. THen I decided to cut him out of my life. I met someone else, moved in with him, etc. Come Jan, he decides he wants me back, dying to see me, wishing we were together, the whole 10 yards. HE even took a week off of school and flew to see me. I seen him, and I realized I love him more than ever. It took me a month after her left to realize it, now he is acting strange, and hanging out with this one girl that I have seen pics of them and he looks happy. Is he over me? Should I just accept it and not fight to be with him?Help!
2007-03-14 12:16:50 · 13 answers · asked by notsheena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whether he's over you or not, you don't need this roller coaster ride of a relationship. How much does he care to keep you in his life? Just the times when it moves him or he needs something right then? What's so important about him flying to be with you? He felt up to it. When you had a mental breakdown, he wasn't up to being with you then.
He's the person who is taking, not giving in this relationship. So stop it, accept he is not good for you. Why fight to be with him? When it doesn't suit him, all that 'fighting to be with him' will just be something that irritates him. So stop.
Start anew and enjoy your life. Keep him out of it. He obviously exploits any weakness you have.
2007-03-18 16:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This shouldn't even be a question. After he left you in sickness, you should have never saw him again. He was letting you know that he can't stand the test of life, so what does that mean? He could never be the man you need. He is Waverly, He have feelings that come and goes. He is the type of person that truly need to be by themselves. If he looks happy then move on. Why would you break someone else heart to be with a person that left you at a time of need?
2007-03-19 02:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very messed up. He doesn't no whether to sh## or go blind. Maybe you need to smarten up as well. After all, you are so wanting a relationship so badly that you will take all kinds of crap. Getting depressed over this looser is not the way to go. Time to wipe the slate clean, and start fresh. You said you found some things about him that upset you, and you still want to try again?? Move on, and you will be much happier....
2007-03-21 00:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depressed over him ...or upset because you met with him and regret that he brought up old feeling and disregarded them like the first time....no meds ....unless sucide is a factor and it shouldnt be ...wishing on the relationship that was is normal .....but it is past and its past for a reason ......real and true love isnt usually fairytale most reunited couple dont last a second time around either .....dont take what is a true memory of true love and ruin it...it will ruin the next real thing for the future.....you love many times in life and each is very special ....each is different and each new love will remind you of one in the past...(good and bad).....never let go just realize that you can ruin a relationship by holding on to long......he could always be a friend later....and its ok to love him as a friend....Just dont sleep with him
2007-03-14 12:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by beenthere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to forget the good memories or even the rocky ones. you cant just unlove someone on cue. but you can try to move on. you dont paint a great relationship picutre. if you cant have a serious talk with him by now, get out and stay out. time heals over things even tho you may never forget him. someone else out there is looking for you and you deserve better. good luck
2007-03-14 12:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him then you will never unlove him. The questions are," Are we right for each other"? and "Is this the right time"? He may be the right guy but came at the wrong time in his life. My advice is to let him go again, and see if me comes back. If he doesn't, then I ve got a single cousin you might like.
2007-03-21 04:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by levell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty highschool stuff. There are more things in our daily life than just deciding on one guy.
2007-03-14 13:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on and live your life.
2007-03-21 04:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've been played. Try your best to forget about him.
2007-03-22 08:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Alsign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on..
2007-03-21 18:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by _____ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋