Is it appropriate for men and women to be friends, even when both parties involved are married?

Answer 1

Friends can mean a lot of things. Coworkers can be friendly by all means. It is dangerous for a married man and a married woman to share secrets, marriage problems, or touching each other inappropriately.

Ordinary friends introduce each other to their spouses and try to alleviate misunderstandings.

Answer 2

I think it's completely appropriate, assuming neither party is cheating. Growing up in a farm community I got along better with the boys than I did the girls. I am now happily married, and to this day maintain very good freindships with all of these men. Some are married, some are not. I have never slept with any of them or "messed around" with any of them. WE have always just been friends. My husband is also friends with many women. Some married, some not. And neither one of us gets upset at the other when they go out with these friends. It's all a matter of trust.

Answer 3

No it's not now if both of the couples were friends that would be fine but if you are just talking about the one guy and the girl then still a No. It is not respectful to your spouse to be hanging around with someone of the opposite sex you are married. The only time it is okay is if you are both friends with the same person but even then friendship with a guy once you are married is just wrong ethically and morally. It is the same as a guy being friends with his ex or another girl you don't know about?

One last question does your hubby know about this guy?
If not I bet he would not be happy at all to learn you been hanging out with him nor would this guys wife.

Answer 4

Of course it is.

My girlfriend had guy friends before I came along, and I had girl friends before she came along. Neither of us expects that to change, and that's fine with us. You know why? Because there's trust in our relationship, meaning that she trusts me to behave appropriately when I'm with my friends and I trust her to behave appropriately when she's with hers.

However, I do concede that every couple and every relationship needs to be clear about what is appropriate behavior and what is not.

I don't understand how it matters who's married, or in a relationship, or single. Why is it okay to have a friend (male or female, married or not) if you're not in a relationship, but you have to stop being friends with that person once you ARE in a relationship? I would never put up with that kind of controlling crap from my girlfriend, and she would never put up with that kind of controlling crap from me. It's jealous and it's possessive and it's insecure.

If there are no valid reasons to be concerned (no history of infidelity or unfaithfulness or lying), then I see nothing wrong with it.

Answer 5

Ten years ago, my wife made a male friend. She claimed it was innocent, but one thing led to another and it evolved into an affair to the point where she actually moved out for a short time to figure it all out. There is a line...and when one side becomes uncomfortable with the "friendship" its time for the other side to respect that and back off.

Answer 6

I think that you can be friends with anyone you want. Why should your marital status having anything to do with your friendships? And if both are married, why is there a problem?

Answer 7

Its a NO-NO!
No No No. Married or Single! No!
Sorry!
Unless the Couples together are friends together.

Answer 8

Yes, as long as both parties understand that that is all the relationship is.

Answer 9

Couples can be friends with couples, outside of that is asking for some trouble (maybe never any trouble, but one never knows).

I'm curious as to why you ask. With whom are you wanting to be friends? Motive check!

Answer 10

Nope.