I have 2 children and I want them to do well in school and make something of themselves. During the week, they are not allowed to watch any tv until all their homework is done. They are not allowed to play any video games during the week also. They are 13 and 10 and they both do chores. Like washing dishes, sweeping floor, washing their own laundry, taking out the trash, ironing their school clothes, and making sure their room is clean. On the weekend they are allowed to have friends over and play games. Im very proud of my kids when they come home with good grades. It doesnt have to be 100's all the time, but they have to do at least a 80 and above. I dont hit my kids only if necassary. I punish them by taking away their favorite things. Some people agree with my rules and others have problems. Im looking for an opinion..
2007-03-14 11:49:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds to me like you are raising very responsible kids and you should be proud. I like the idea that you are expecting the chores around the house, to many kids today don't know how to do anything. I think setting up a savings or checking account is a very good idea for kids your children's age. Have them learn how banking and savings work. I think you need to become prepared for some problems in the future. As children grow into teenagers they become emotional, argumentative and in general, not nice people to be around. I don't think anyone has solved this problem, I've always thought God made it this way so kids want to leave their home when they are ready and parents are willing to let them go. Good luck hand continued happiness♥♥.
2007-03-14 11:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a really well designed household. I think you are a little stricter than most, but that is not necessarily a bad thing. Everybody does things differently!
I do think that your grades policy is a little over the top and not necessarily helpful to your kids. Grades are going to vary from class to class, teacher to teacher, and assignment to assignment. Making a blanket rule that your child must have an 80 or above is not taking into consideration all the circumstances. Also, you said you were proud of them when they come home with good grades and punish them when they don't. Maybe it should be a bigger priority to help them study and learn. That way, no matter what grade they come home with, you will know that they tried their best...and THAT is something to be proud of.
2007-03-14 19:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are pretty fair for the most part. If their homework is done I don't see anything wrong with them getting 1hr of video game time if thats what they want to do - but make sure there is a time limit. Other than that I think your rules are perfectly fine.
2007-03-14 19:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with everything except for the following
* don't hit your kids, no matter what. it'schild abuse
* let them play video games! they're just kids! let them have fun!
* don't take their things away. that will just make them rebel against you. they won't give you as much respect as before.
* one thing though:
NEVER TELL YOUR KIDS THEY HAVE TO GET A GREAT JOB, GO TO STANFORD, AND BRING HOME GOOD GRADES ALL THE TIME. overtime, the pressure will increase, an this usually results in running away from home.
2007-03-14 18:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by !♥~FaY9512~♥! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you are making your kids grow up way to fast let them be kids there is plenty of time for them to learn responsibility dont get me wrong i would make them do some chores but not as much as you also you are making it where they are going to feel like the dont need you because they can do it all
2007-03-14 19:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great job!, your rules look perfectly normal to me!
2007-03-14 18:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋