in a releationship, a distance one. I been with her for 6month's, and we have only been actualy togeather for 3 day's (i stayed with her for my first visit), it was just about 2 day's before christmas i had to go back home. When i left she burst into tear's, and text'd me and said that "She can do this again because she want's to be with me" But now we started talking about visiting on easter, Now she say's that she doesent want me there because i'll break her heart for a short time if i leave again, Were Very much inlove and serious, i already agreed i'd move to England in june to live close to her! (in stourbridge and im from Scotland). She told me the only time she want to literly be with me is when i move. I know she does want me to go, because she say's she does now and again then say's she doesent Should i try and Convince her to let me visit her even if it give's a small broken heart, If were inlove, shouldent we take every chance to be togeathert? how can i convice her :(?
2007-03-14 11:47:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
3 actual days together is only a big crush and infatuation.
Talking on the tele only makes it seem more...distance,time and a lot of emotions, thinking and words make the heart grow fonder, but real time togetherness makes all the difference in the world..understand? two people have to actually be together for to get to know one another in every way. When two spend much time together it may turn and go the other way; who knows?
If you want to spend the money and you have it, then by all means, go visit her (you can tell her next time you talk or just surprise her if she like surprises) and don't let her (say) or dictate what YOU want to do. It's your choice what you want to find out and do..If and when you go and get there and she is happy and all goes well. come back home, call to say hi, I'm home, do you miss me? and then keep it real short and then let her get in touch with you the next time. If she does then maybe she is for you? Oh and by the way, when you're there DO NOT under any circumstances tell her you're "FEELINGS" ; just be a Man, a happy strong man and Show her you're just that. She should respond well. If she freaks out that you're there it very possible there may be another guy. but I am just guessing and you must be prepared for anything.
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my opinions...
good luck
2007-03-22 02:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, are you getting the feeling she doesnt want you there maybe for a reason?? Could she perhaps have someone else over there that she doesnt want you to know about or find out about? If she feels the same way you do, she should be jumping at the chance to see you, even if it means the tears and heartache when you part. Either somethings changed, or she wasnt really into you to start with, and likes the idea of a long distance relationship. I'd make a surprise visit and check it out. You may be pleasantly surprised at her reaction ... or not!
2007-03-14 18:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound great and you should just tell her that in a long distant relationship you both should always i mean always keep in contact no matter what.
I know her heart would be in pain because it does hurt when you are that close but you don't want to go and she doesn't want you to go either.
I guess what i am trying to tell you that being in love is and always will be a serious thing.
So like I said just tell her that it is the right thing to do to just visit her so you both can at least talk face to face.
2007-03-14 18:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by astateson111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how she feels. I have a long distant love too. The thing is, is that it will hurt so much once u leave that it will hurt her. If ur gonna move there soon after u visit her, then I say go ahead. But if it is gonna be a few months to a year, I'd not go. I know how much you want to be with her. Im like that with my Boyfriend, but I dont want to get hurt bad. I hope this helps
2007-03-14 18:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by kaybethj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should I was in a long distance relationship for three years and I finally moved closer and now we're happier than ever. If you two are "truly in love" you will both do whatever you can to see eachother, the good thing about distance is it forces you to communicate , and that is key.
2007-03-14 18:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by shadegirl15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. If you're in love, every minute together counts, and should be spent together, even if you're sad when it's over. On the other hand, it's futile to try to convince her. Do it her way ... she'll probably regret she did, and see that wants to spend that time with you after all, even if there are goodbyes for a while after.
2007-03-14 18:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she doesn't want to visit you because she's afraid something will happen. She obviously really loves you and is sparing her heart more pain. Tell her you understand and send her something for easter! Relaxe. You will be okay, just wait until you move!
2007-03-14 18:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Caiti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if this would work but if you are TRULY in love with her then you should suprise her by moving closer without telling her or maybe writing her a not telling her how much you care about her some of the LITTLEST things mean the most to women
2007-03-14 18:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
was with a girl for 3 yrs, then became long distance, honestly dont take her seriously until ur together in the same area, females tend to send mixed messages
2007-03-14 18:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and stay for a week or at least more than 2 dayss
2007-03-14 18:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by JOANclay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋