or does it mean that the relationship is completely over.....
2007-03-14 11:37:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, honey, it's not an all-or-nothing proposition. But it is not good. I've never understood the "we-just-need-a-break-from-one-another." A break ? If you have problems, what you need to do is come together! This is a RELATIONSHIP not a date. Depending on the maturity of the people, this kind of suggestion ("Oh, we just need a break.") can mean different things. Problem is that when you are apart, you are NOT working on the difficulties that are causing the trouble between you. You are just ignoring it. (Ignore it and it WON'T go away.....) At a young age - teens, twenties - this kind of statement can be a facade that really does mean it is over. Truthfully, men do this a lot when they are young, thinking that it will let the female down "easy" and they assume she will eventually figure it out - that it is over - when there is no end to the "breaktime." (Yeah, easier on the guy, because women keep hoping.) Best thing to do is be brutally direct and pull no punches. ASK what that means and insist that you don't want to be treated with kid gloves and you don't want to be let down easy. "If it's over, then tell me it's over." But follow that with, "if it's not over - then instead of a break, let's find out why you think we need a break." If he still equivocates and says you two "just need a break" but he won't talk about the problems, then I'd say you now know all you need to know.
2007-03-14 11:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a great idea. My boyfriend and I were together for almost 3 years. I wanted to get married and he wasn't sure so we broke up. A year later we got back together and our relationship is 100 times better than it was before. He realized how much he missed me and wanted to be with me. We have been back together for almost a year now and we are engaged and just bought out first house today!
2007-03-14 11:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by NRM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes taking time off will give each of you the space that you need. Two things can happen either it will make the relationship stronger and make each off you realize that you want to be together or it can pull you apart and make you realize that you are not happy with each other.
2007-03-14 11:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anita G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs breaks!
2007-03-14 11:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanette E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋