She did him wrong (doesn't know if her son is his, cheating), isn't a good influence (she's a stripper and now the daughter is picking up on her moves) and is ungreatful (couldn't even say thank you for Easter baskets and $$ from me). They have been over for about 6 years and needless to say I could care less about the piece of trash yet he still chooses to see the good in her. Now we live two states away from her but we continue to argue over things like him not wanting to take her to court for visitation rights, him being unsure of moving on and having a family with someone else after being hurt, him wanting to have her, her new boyfriend and THEIR new baby to stay over our house just so that he can see his kids. Also it has been about 3 years since he has seen his kids due to the military and since we are two states away she will not allow the children to come to us and it is financially hard for us to just leave and go over there. Am I overreacting or am I blind to something?
2007-03-14 11:28:54 · 3 answers · asked by inloveNfrustrated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I know what you are going throught. I married a guy who has 3 kids with some one else and he did almost the same thing. He never went to court to lower the child support and he pays 1,300 monthly and we were always broke due to that he died not see the skids either and they don't even call him dad. He always wanted to see just her good side and his excuse was that she was the mother of his kids. I finally learned that the reason why he would not do nothing against her even dought she was not a good mom was because he never stop loving her and that he still cared a lot for her. He did more for her than for us and he was never married to her I was the first and only wife and also the mother of two children. My advice is that it will not change and that you cannot change the past and it's better to end a relationship like that or get used to it. Me and my still husband have been separated for 3 years now. She still gets 1,300 for child support and I get $460.00 see the big difference? Good luck.
2007-03-20 11:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by JUANA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what don't get yourself involved that will only cause more heat from the baby's mother. Try to steer him in the right direction, Sometimes these situations can be tough. He needs to go to the courts and have visitation set she will have to meet you half way for him to get his child during visitation. That is the only way that he is going to establish a relationship with his child because otherwise she says no.
2007-03-22 05:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you met your man how long was he seperated from his ex. and children? What I see is this..He hasn't let go of his ex ol lady and kids. And to let his ex and her boyfriend stay over that is invasion of privacy. Yes you are BLIND TO SOMETHING!!! He still hasn't grown up and moved on with his life and your life. HE IS DRAGGING YOU ALONG AND IS USING YOU. LET HIM GO BACK TO WHERE SHE LIVES AND TELL HIM TO MOVE NEXT DOOR TO THEM SO HE CAN INVITE THEM ALL OVER TO HIS CRIB. ASK HIM IF HE WOULD DO THE SAME THING WITHOUT YOU BY HIS SIDE? HE IS PUTTING ON A SHOW AND TO THINK LIKE THAT...YOU BETTER MOVE ON...YOU JUST GOT CAUGHT UP IN HIS REBOUND AND HE IS LEADING YOU ON. FIND SOMEBODY WHO DOESN'T HAVE ALL THAT JUNK IN THE TRUNK AND START OFF FRESH ESPECIALLY SOMEONE WHOS GONNA BE SETTLED DOWN IN ONE SPOT WITH ONE PERSON HES GIVING HIS UNDIVIDED ATTENTION TO. WHY ARE YOU TAKING ALL THIS BS FOR? I'M NOT GOING TO INSULT YOUR INTELLIGENCE BUT WAKE UP! PAPA HANK
2007-03-22 07:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by papa_hanko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋