A dear friend of mine is finally at the point to divorce her husband but she doesn't know how to do it. Should she just leave a note on the table? Hire a lawyer and serve papers? Sit him down and be honest? They have been married almost 19 years, but she has been unhappy most of it. Unfortunately she's always acted like nothing was wrong and pretended the marriage was perfect, which obviously makes everything much much harder. She has started standing up for herself lately, but a few months of having a backbone doesn't knock out the years of fake smiles. This question is not should she ask for a divorce or if god will be mad (he has more important things to deal with), it's simply about what's the best way to say, "I want a divorce", when the husband is in denial that a problem even exists? I would especially like to hear from those that have asked for a divorce or have had a divorce requested to them.
2007-03-14 11:16:54 · 5 answers · asked by Hope The Best - Expect The Worst 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Links to articles on how to ask for a divorce would be helpful too. I searched online and found a lot about "should I ask for a divorce" and "what questions do I ask a divorce lawyer", but the actual act of how to tell someone you just aren't feeling it anymore seems amiss in Yahoo & Google. Also - yes I know this is a duplicate question froma few days ago (for the most part), however I also know people on Yahoo Answers don't read old questions, and I wanted to get as many answers as possible.
2007-03-14 11:18:03 · update #1
No chlldren ... and she plans on leaving him the house. She'd prefer to not stay in the same area once she tells him.
2007-03-15 00:41:00 · update #2
ask.
2007-03-14 11:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One does not ASK for a divorce, she doesn't HAVE to have permission to file for divorce. The first thing she needs to do is to find a lawyer, call around and find ones who give free first consultations, that way she won't be locked into something. From there she will need to chose which laywer best suits HER needs financially and logistically. Next she will need to have papers of seperation drawn up telling him to vacate the home (if they have children) or she can find an apartment or room some place, you can also have a rought draft of a seperation of property drawn up at this time as well. Then have the papers either mailed by a friend/neighbor, the person filing is not allowed to serve the papers. Or one can have the sherrif's dept serve papers, for a fee. Mailing there is no charge but you will need to get a retrun receipt.
2007-03-14 11:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is denying there is a problem, she needs to just sit him down and tell him. I went through that. I actually had to ask my husband to leave. He cried and carried on and promised things would be better but I knew it was over though he didn't. After 12 hours of arguing about it I finally just went and started packing his things for him.
You don't say if they have kids or not? Tell your friend not to forget that kids are effected much worse by divorce than either her or her mate, and they need to be told as gently as possible, and to make she she lets them know it's not their fault!
Good luck to your friend!
2007-03-14 11:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she wore that smile for all those years she owes him a face to face explaination.
2007-03-14 11:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you own a hammer?
2007-03-14 11:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋