My divorce will be final, after waiting and fighting it out for 27 months, a week from this comming Friday. We haven't decided if we are going to celebrate with the friends who have been here for us durring this harrowing time or celebrate alone. I'd like some ideas on how we can make this time more memorable.
For further details.....my first husband found me again after 18 years apart just when his second marriage had ended and mine was comming to a messy end. We have been back together since Dec. 2004. Turned out neither of us had been able to forget the other and we had each spent the interviening years still loving and missing eachother. We do plan to remarry sometime in the future.
Any ideas will be very welcome!
2007-03-14 11:14:16 · 13 answers · asked by TJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok hold on.....I DID work to save my marriage. I spent 11 years dealing with a cheating, lying abusive (mentally) husband. I finally left him because 1) he punched my son and 2) he caught Herpes from one of the gals he was cheating with. (Thanks the gods I made him wear condoms!) We went to counseling many times. I did everything I could think of to make it work. I just got tired after 11 years.
2007-03-14 11:32:19 · update #1
The first husband and I were just too young the first time around. Things look a lot different at 40 and 42 than they did when we were 19 and 21. We have both had time to grow and mature, and we both know a marriage takes WORK. Honestly.....the first time around all we did was fight..and we were together less than 2 years. We have now been together 25 months and haven't even had a serious argument. We were always well suited to eachother, had many things in common, etc, we were both just too young and selfish to work at it 20 years ago. Now it barely takes any work at all and we are very happy. In fact I can say myself I'm happier than I have been my entire life!
2007-03-14 12:16:06 · update #2
In case any of you are confused by this......I am talking about 2 different husbands. The one I am divorcing this comming friday is my third.....Yes I know how bad that sounds........the second I dont even consiter cuz it was a very quick rebound thing. I spent 11 years with my third husband and things just didn't work out with his cheating and abuse and everything......I gave it my best. It's not easy to make things work when there's only ONE person working at things. He's happy too btw.......he already proposed to his new GF, gave her the ring for valentines day this year in fact! They are having their own celebration.
2007-03-14 12:22:47 · update #3
Go to Disneyland!! Or, better yet, go to Hawaii, have a un-honeymoon. Do not forget to decorate your car, dragging cans, write "Just divorced" on the windows with white shoe polish. Have a divorce shower. Party on!!!!
We are on your side...I know how bad it hurts to find out it is not going to work, do not listen to that judgmental crap!!
2007-03-14 11:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After what you describe, I would say a party but most would consider that disrespectful to celebrate a divorce. What I can't figure out why go back to a person you had left. When one decides to leave a relationship it's because it just wasn't working. Aren't you afraid that the same problems that caused the first separation with time will arise?
2007-03-14 12:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Las Vegas Weekend with Girlfriends
2007-03-14 11:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will be having a divorce party when mine is final. It'll be just like a bachellorette party complete with gag gifts and funny shirt but with a black veil and co-ed! Probably at a local club that offers bachellorette packages.
2007-03-14 11:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by passionatemilf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why anyone would celebrate a divorce, is beyond my comprehension. You made a bad decision, didn't work to save your marriage, and failed. You should be mourning your inability to make a happy marriage or a good decision...not celebrating. And before you marry that first guy again, figure out why you divorced him in the first place. There WAS a reason. Remember what is was before you say "I do" again. You don't sound really talented at decision making. I suggest pre-marital counseling before you marry again.
2007-03-14 11:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-18 09:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a huge blow out in Vegas and maybe even get married while you are there. Get all your friends to go with you.
2007-03-14 11:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Celebrate by Finding a hot chick for you and your ex husband to have 3sum with that would make him happy. good luck
2007-03-14 11:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A quiet, romantic weekend alone. What better way to celebrate.
How cool, good luck, and you two rock!!
2007-03-14 11:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Celebrate a divorce.....how sad. A divorce is pathetic and deserves no celebration.
2007-03-14 11:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kari R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋