I know it doesn't happen with everything I say, but when it does happen it bothers me more and more. It has happened when I was standing not even six inches from the person and my voice, while not boisterous, was not that quiet. Why does it seem to happen so much to me? Is it only because it bothers me? I know that there are lots of people who don't listen just because it's their nature and then there are the people who just wait til you're done talking to say what they want to say. Kind of the same thing, but... Well, I'm a quiet person naturally, but I've started talking more since it's kind of necessary, especially at work. Then people start ignoring me, even at work. If I don't talk, they can't ignore me, right? Oh, now I know I'm ranting, but there are a few questions in there. Any advice will be appreciated.
2007-03-14 10:51:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Talk louder, and make eye contact. If that doesn't work, slight physical contact, on the shoulder or back will do.
If all else fails, scream "FIRE" and I'm 100% sure that people will listen to you.
2007-03-14 11:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do some homework on yourself first. you may unknowlingly be sending off signals that are exactly the opposite of what you think youre doing. see in the mirror if your face expression when smiling is really doing that, or your anxiety level may show. sometimes we furrow our brows and lookd confused or bothered, which sends out wrong signals to teachers too. you might tape record your voice having a conversation with a helpful friend, then play it back. we all sound different than we think on tape. practice and pretend youre entering a conversation two people are having. get feedback from your friend. it can be real hard to join in sometimes. sometimes people are having a personal conversation and it just isnt a good time.
its good you realize your are naturally more quiet than others and you dont need to change. just be sure you arent doing something that contributes to what is happening. and at work we get thrown in with people who dont always share our natures or interests and cliques can form.
maybe you should approach one person and make your voice a bit louder, before you work on entering a 2+ conversation in progress.
yea some people just like to blab and are terrible listners, but how bout you, are you trying to be a good listener too? since it seems like this happens to you with more than one individual, a good place to start is looking at yourself.
2007-03-14 11:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happens to me during certain times in the school year-at the end. For me, it's b/c i'm stressed all out. When that happens, you get sensitive. One person does it, then another, and even though it's happened before, it bothers you. you notice all the small things that you usually don't. just brush it off your shoulder. who cares? you got things to do. i have this one teacher that ignores me. i think it's b/c i beat up her favorite student last year. it makes me so mad. but sometimes, when someone ignores you like that, it's b/c they are thinking about you (in some way). im glad im the center of YOUR world.
2007-03-14 11:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by that_cool_chic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is sometimes called a feature of non-existence.
I also have it and I could tell you loads of stories to prove it.
It is related to human types which you can read about, in other words it is part of our essence. We need to adjust to it and that is not easy when we don`t know we have it. Good observation! You are now well on your way to improving your life experience. There are many other such features connected to human types and learning about them was fun.
I now enjoy spotting them wherever I go especially on the subway.
2007-03-14 11:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did someone say something?
2007-03-14 11:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by Atlas 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think so...
2007-03-14 10:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by kayla w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋