He was talking to one of his friends about how great his ex-wife was to "be with." I am not a jealous type - but when I heard this I was very angry!! I cannot seem to get over it - I find it so disrespectful! I know if he was talking about anyone else I would be okay with it. Should I just ignore it and move on?
2007-03-14 10:49:48 · 18 answers · asked by succinite1975 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do NOT ignore it. That doesn't mean you break up or stay mad, but I would casually bring her up in conversation with him. Find out from his mouth how he feels about her. it could be that she was 'great', but he could never see himself with her again...you don't really have to bring up hearing the phone conversation, but you will at least take the opprotunity to discuss this with him and get some frustration off your back to move forward.
2007-03-14 11:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by NicG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOUR years with someone who thinks sex with his ex wife was that Great???? that he talks about it with his buddies!
Why are you wasting time being with him? After two years they either marry you or date you till they find someone else that floats their boat more. If he is still thinking about sex with an ex after four years you are out of the big picture anyway.
I dont think it was an accident and I would dump him and move along.
2007-03-14 11:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, I agree with the first answer.....I dont think I could forget a conversation like that either. If you dont settle this thing now, you will be forever wondering if you match up to his ex wife....it will cause all sorts of problems....when the two of you make love, you will wonder if you are as good as she is, and I guarantee, with time, your self esteem will dwindle to none.....talk to him about it, otherwise it will come back to haunt you....do it now before your mind runs away with you.
Take care
2007-03-14 11:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning, thank you for answering mine :) And properly, i will think of you're in a very difficult place. this is surely difficult to enable go of a many times happening courting, it will continuously probably be with you even if you recover from it. After that long of a courting, you need to be attentive to the reason in the back of him leaving, and that i think of he ought to have granted you that know a minimum of. And as for the pastime in the hot guy, i think of this is probably a protection mechanism.. only your concepts attempting to divert you from what got here approximately. And it can not inevitably be a undesirable element, you will likely choose some distraction to recover from this. yet, if I have been you, i would not mistake this pastime for something actual only yet, probably extra on the rebound. wish that facilitates...
2016-11-25 20:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what? You knew he has an exwife... and So What if she was great to be with... So are YOU or he wouldn't be with you! if you let this bother you - then this could be his way of getting out of your relationship (like others have said it was a set up)...
I'd still say - SO WHAT! people have ex's ... it's common - and you may have a few memories yourself! again... SO WHAT!
2007-03-14 10:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be the woman he would say "great to be with"... fighting over this would just make what he said right... guys would say stupid shlt all the time... (i know you girls agree... saaaad). i'm sure he's just thinking about what was good in the past... and left the negative part of it... now... try to be the best one he will ever have and i'm sure if anything happen.. you will not be forgotten.
2007-03-14 11:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he did it on accident and if she was so great why isn't he with her now? I say you need to have a very serious talk with him and think hard on whether you should be with him.
2007-03-14 11:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to ignore it and move on. Guys will be guys. In general, you really don't want to hear EVERYTHING that other people have to say about you - all your friendships and relationships would fall apart. When you do overhear something that was not meant for your ears, try to keep it in perspective. Unless he consistently behaves disrespectfully towards you, I would let this one go. I bet he is really embarrassed about it himself.
2007-03-14 10:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay, he stupidly left a conversation he was having with a friend (i assume) on your voicemail regarding his past life. I wouldnt worry or wonder about his past life because its in the past and had nothing to do with you. Sure you would have been better off to not hear what he said but you did...bringing it to his attention is going to acheive what??????? Nothing but cause unecessary grief. I say if you do or dont say anything to him about it...its not goin to change that he said it and that it was past past past......Deal with problems in the present!!
2007-03-14 10:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ooops, I completely misunderstood. Here's my answer to the question you asked, not the one I thought you asked.
I would mention to him how much this hurt you. Ask him, out of respect for you, not to make these kinds of remarks in the future. You are his present, she is the past. He needs to leave thoughts of her there.
2007-03-14 11:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋