why cant I fall in love with the most perfect guy. I thought I was in love with him for the 1st 3 months of our relationship and then boom 1 morning I woke up and thought "what if i dont love him anymore" he is a great guy, genuine,honest,sincere,trustworhty,hard worker,would be a great father, etc etc. So why are my feelings the way they are now?
I still want to spend time with him and I enjoy talking with him etc but why dont I feel the love for him that I felt for all of my dramatic loser ex -bf's.This is my first non-dramatic relationship!
Why cant I fall in love with the most perfect guy in the world? He would do anything for me. I wanted so bad to be with him and now that I got what I wanted I feel as though I am pushing him away when he speaks about long term?!??! Can I make myself love him again or was it just infatuation and thats it.How can I tell if thats all it was?
I will be heartbroken if thats what it came down to. Finally a good guy and I have to let him go :(
2007-03-14 10:27:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because... that's what love is. a crazy thing. you are crazy like me. i am not going to tell you what you should or should not do. I know better now. all i can say: Live what you have to live. try to be careful with your heart though. Don't loose yourself too much.
2007-03-14 10:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, you are definitely normal! Love is the most wonderful feeling but does the most unusual things to us all. Unfortunately it is not something we can control, although we wish we could. If you want to give this guy a good chance just sit back, have fun and be patient. The most important part is to have fun. If it doesn't work out, sounds like he has some great qualities to be a great friend. Try not to think too much about the future and just live for now. If you two really aren't connecting you will know what to do.
2007-03-14 17:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by missdre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you were in love with him, and then all of a sudden you stopped because you were worried that you might not love him anymore?
Sounds to me like you're afraid of what love means for you. You have what you always wanted, but deep down, you're afraid you don't deserve it or you'll ruin it or he'll leave you or whatever. So you're subconsciously sabotaging the relationship by convincing yourself that what you feel is not love. You're pushing him away before he can push you away or you get even more attached.
Ask yourself honestly if this description seems to fit you. Recognizing your action is the first step to correcting it. Once you figure WHY you're doing this, confide in your man and tell him that you love him, but you're panicking for X reason and that's why you push him away, and ask him to be patient and work with you while you address the underlying reason.
2007-03-14 17:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax -- you're just learning the difference between love and raging hormones. Sure, women always get hot over the bad boys but guess what -- that ain't love. Maybe you're too young to settle with a real partner yet, but when you are you'll find understanding, trust and satisfaction lasts longer than drama. More fun in the end, too, believe it or not.
2007-03-14 17:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by circledcross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are scared of the real thing.I know I was when I first met my husband.Where do you see yourself in a few years down the road if you stay with him.Is it a good thing or not.And than think about where you would be in a few years without him.Do you think you will be happy or depressed.Try to weigh out the por's and con's.Listen to your heart it will tell you the truth about what you want.
2007-03-14 17:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you feelings are confused and that you need to give it a bit more time. Or you may be asking yourself is he really this perfect and be bored with him. Take sometime to yourself and ask yourself how you really feel. Sometimes it happens that you can fall in love with a friend over time. But if its a crush it only last a couple months.
2007-03-14 17:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do Is remember what made you like him when you first met him and the day you feel in love with or special moments that you guys shared together. This will probally make you know that you love him. Also think about this "imagine you life without him" . Imagine if he was dead or gone and you could never see him again, I have done this before believe me helps. Just try it
2007-03-14 17:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your use to losers it sounds like and a pattern is hard to break or maybe you for some reason don't feel like you deserve a "good" guy. Maybe you should talk to a counselor about this and see if there is an underlying issue that you need help with.
2007-03-14 17:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make yourself love anybody it just has to come but i have that same problem too......once i get the guy i want i dont want him anymore. But i really cant help too much with this one, theres obviously something missing in the relationship, but love takes time
2007-03-14 17:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to get bored with non-losers. People have told me that females go for the losers, but then they grow up and grow out of that stage. Your timing just isn't right right now. Eventually, you'll figure out who you're supposed to be with.
2007-03-14 17:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by toxicity_inour_city 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋