I am a guy and and have a friend that I have beers with sometime and we work together sometime.I have known him for 8 yrs and we and our wives camped together and now both of us are divorced but we still hang out together. As far as I know we both are heterosexual but recently he has teased me about being bi or gay and has made other sexual type comments pertaining to guy guy sex.Is it possible he is trying to suggest something more than just joking? He wont leave it alone and brings it up often.Your opinion would be appreciated
2007-03-14 10:25:08 · 16 answers · asked by liniel_2000 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sounds to me like he's fishing. Easiest things is to just ask him outright, but if you prefer, play along and joke back. If he elevates then you know.
2007-03-14 10:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could tell him a joke, and he'll tell you one, and after you been exchanging jokes a while and you're each trying to think of another good one, then tell him the one about a buddy. A buddy is a friend who goes to town and gets 2 BJs, and comes home and gives you one. Watch for his reaction. This would at least be a good opener to get some dialog going, and you can take it from there.
2007-03-14 10:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by augen blich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been friends for that long, you should be able to talk to him. And if you aren't gay...let him know. Maybe his divorce was for something other than yours. It's ok to have a guy talk everyonce in a while. Just ask him what he's getting at. If he's gay or bi...let him know whether you are or not. It shouldn't change your friendship though. You shouldn't let it. Things may be awkward for a while, but a friendship that long in years...shouldn't change too much.
2007-03-14 10:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's teasing / testing you out about being bi/gay etc the next time he brings up the subject don't put up any defences or make a joke out of it, just be open and say that you aren't (if you aren't!). then ask him the same question and since you've answered calmly and honestly beforehand it's more likely that he'll be the same way back.
2007-03-14 11:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's like asking why does the solar arise in the morning, a lot of adult men do this .An old lady once suggested to me there is not any basically buddy deliver between a guy and woman, and that is exceedingly a lot always the case. in case you don't need that to ensue basically save him at fingers length.
2016-12-02 00:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by magallanes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, yes that DOES sound like what he is doing. If you don't want to, be blunt and ask him if that is what he is suggesting, and tell him that you don't go that way. He will then be able to laugh off his remarks and still retain some dignity.
If you DO want to, I would suggest being coy, and flirt along with it. You will find out VERY quickly what you want to know, i am sure.
2007-03-14 10:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be confused about his sexuality and is testing it out on you. If you are uncomfortable with the situation then tell him. If it continues then drop him as a friend unless your willing to give it a try which it sounds like your not.
2007-03-14 10:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying to get some feedback from you.
Either get a case of beer and see what happens or tell him flat out that you don't want to hear anything about guy guy sex.
2007-03-14 10:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be. I'd just advise not to go camping out in the mountains together any time soon.
2007-03-14 10:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Counselor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is most likely testing the waters with you regarding gay sex. He might be interested in you, and just wants to see how well (or not) you react to the prospect, the idea, of gay sex.
2007-03-14 10:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋