I have gaines 60lbs since my husband and I have been married(almost 8 yrs). Is this fair?

Question

He says that he does not care and that he loves me anyway, but i'm so insecure with myself. I look really different than when we met. i'm not obese just about 35 pounds overweight, but it is a big change. I have tried to loose the weight put I have only lost 8 pounds in 2 months. Should I be more concerned with losing the weight for my husband sake? Don't get me wrong I don't like it either. I don't know what to do. please give me your advice.

Answer 1

You didn't mention if you had children or not,that can add to weight gain,also stress. But what you should be thankful for is for a husband is a husband who loves and appreciates you as you are. Usually,it is the other way around. There are alot of women who would love to have a husband like that. And for the record,it's not a crime to be overweight,you have to be fair with yourself,that was almost a decade ago. People don't always look the same way as they did years ago. I wish I could look the way I did a decade ago.

Answer 2

I think if it bothers you than it is a problem. Your husband said he is fine with the way you look, which is great, but it is obviously bothering you...so maybe for your sake, you should try and take off a few pounds, that way you will feel better about yourself and have a more positive outlook.

You should make sure you are doing this for yourself, not your husband. The only other things you should consider besides yourself is your floor and your shoes. They are probably enduring most of the wear and tear compliments of your extra pounds.

You could probably get by without drastically changing your diet, instead, just be conscious of what you are eating. You know what foods are good and which ones are not. Stay away from fast foods, fried foods, and a lot of sodium. And try to drink water as often as possible, this will help purge your body of toxins and excess compounds. Along with watching what you eat, try a moderate exercise routine. Maybe a walk to the mail box a few times a week would help out rather than getting the mail from your car. If all else fails, try cutting the tines off of your forks at home. Good luck, and remember, do it for you!

Answer 3

Do it for yourself, and that is the only person you should do it for. I have gained 73 thats right 73 pounds since September of 2005. I got pregnant in september and by time I gave birth a month {5 weeks actually} early I was 115 pounds heavier then when he and I met and married. I do not feel comfortable with the weight in fact I am the size that I use to tell my friends if I ever get that fat shoot me. I have exercised, changed my eating habits although I have never ate fried, fatty, fast or high calorie foods even before 9-2005. My knees ache walking up the stairs, I get winded carrying our 9 month old son up to bed, when we take the kids for a walk my heart races fast and I can NOT stand to look at myself in the mirror I have become what I never wanted to be. My husband told me he loves me and the weight does not bother him at all. I am so ashamed of how I look now I will not have photos taken w my son or terminally ill daughter, I do not want friends from back home to see me and I dont want even my own family to see me due to all this weight. I talked to my dr about it he ran some tests on me and it came back that I have a problem w my endrocrine system which is causing me to constantly put on the weight told me if I ate a handful of carrots a day and exercised nonstop I'd still gain. Well isnt that lovely! Atleast now we know what the problem is however its up to the endocronologist to figure out wha can be done. I dont know if this could be your problem its a simple blood test but it was mine and I am so greatful we found it because I cant stand myself right now. But like I said do it for yourself and your health that is the only person you should be doing it for. And before you go off thinking im one of those girls where you can put a bottle on their hips and it wouldnt fall thats not the truth at all when I am weighed by my dr he says "looking at you I'd have never guessed you could weigh that much" same things my friends say, clothing hides alot

Answer 4

You should be concerned about losing the weight for yourself, not your husband. So when you met you were 25 pounds underweight? Just try to get some exercise, and make sure you don't have a thyroid issue, that could explain gaining weight when you have been trying to lose.

Answer 5

I really think you need to do what you want to do. If you lose weight for someone else it won't stay off. You need to feel comfortable being in your own skin no matter how much you weigh. However, if your health is being compromised in anyway you need to change your lifestyle for health purposes. But just by walking more and eating less and drinking more water you should be able to lose and or maintain. Good luck. Youre husband sounds secure in your relationship. You should believe him and love him for that.

Answer 6

Yes. Lose the weight for yourself. 1-2 pounds a week is good weight loss-the kind you keep off. Don't look for miracle solutions. Change your eating habits for good and lose more weight. He loves you and that's awesome. So ask him to help you lose weight for YOU.

Answer 7

Lose weight to save the relationship between you and your husband. BTW, 8lbs in two months is excellent. Keep up the good work.

Answer 8

NEVER lose or try to lose weight for anyone BUT yourself. If you want to lose the weight and can't do it on your own you can get a personal trainer, join Curves or Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig. You have many options but no matter what option you take..you have to be prepared to put in the work and time. G'luck!

Answer 9

losing 8 lbs in two months is a big accomplishment. keep it up. it's not what your husband thinks but how do you feel about it yourself. do you like what you see in the mirror? i've learned to keep a trim figure after 3 kids. if you are worried about it, if you don't like what you see, continue in your effort to lose weight. he might be saying that it's OK but he just don't want to hurt your feelings. i see men always checking women who are in good shape. take care and good luck!

Answer 10

hello hot mom! are you still hot at that weight? just joking..same here, i over weight like yours and you know what i did? lessen my carbo but don't escape a meal. just lessen your food, you still can eat everything but not always and heavy. for a month i loose that over weight. keep busy yourself and avoid getting sleep after lunch. this is not a joke , trust me.. just watch your eating habit and do physical activities to burn your fats. or you can also tell to yourself that if i don't succeed to loose my weight my hubby might look for someone sexy..just like that although your hubby is not that weird to do that but just for a reason to make you eager to loose that weight. don't feel so secure for being happy and being love by your hubby.... it makes you fat only. have fun in making yourself sexy again. don't take it seriously my dear.
and besides there's so many months in a calendar to loose 4lbs in a month. don't be in a hurry.. only sacrifice is all what you need to become sexy again, don't try to be skinny coz most of hubbies want their wife meaty not skinny ..you know what i mean.