*Coming out*?

Question

Would you come out to family and friends if you didn't know where they stood regarding gays and lesbians?

Saucy Bungle!!

Ahem, I didn't say it was me did I?
Although it might be.

I was actually plucking up the courage to tell my closest friend, then in a totally unrelated conversation she said she had nothing against homosexuals, but there's some things that people just shouldn't do. So I changed my mind.

Answer 1

I would try to find an opportune moment (maybe when there's a T.V. programme on with gay characters) to open a discussion about it & get a feel for their views first,then you'll know the best approach (I.E. tell them & hug them & cry OR tell them & run!!).

Answer 2

I finally found the courage to come out to family & friends knowing that they weren't particularly pro-gay. It was a scary thing, but at the end of the day if you want to be honest with them & stop living a lie then it is a risk you'll have to take. You could try finding out how they feel about the subject, but remember that it is always easier for someone to be accepting of a gay character on TV, than someone in their own family / circle of friends. Only you know when the time is right to come out. Good luck!

Answer 3

I did. I was not going to play that game with them. In the end your family will have to deal with it. Your friends, if they are true friends will find a way to deal with it, they are going to wonder when you became gay/lesbian and why you did not tell them. I just said it- straight. I was polite, and sure of myself on the outside and scared out of mind that I would get rejection- but it was about me. If you can't be honest with family and friends, then you have bigger issues than why you are gay. Just say it, and be proud!

Answer 4

Yes. And when you do come out you will be astonished by how positive most people are! Also the ones you think will be ok won't be and the ones you think will have a problem with it won't!
Remember, to most straight people, this whole gay thing is a bore, they are far more concerned about paying the mortgage, where to go Friday night, what's on the telly, etc etc than to be concerned about who you fancy.

Answer 5

I would wait until I was comfortable about people knowing.
I was in my 30's when I plucked the courage to tell my Mum. Some friends knew before then. If you can tell friends, then do.

Answer 6

It is hard for everybody to come out to there friends and family but i have seen some really old fashion families accept another gay family member and treat them with love and respect!

Answer 7

I think you should come out. If your family and friends cannot accept you then they don't deserve you. If they truly love you then they will accept you as you are and you are not changing they are just learning about a different part of you. Good Luck!

Answer 8

If your friends are really your friends, they will like you no matter what. As for your family, that's a million dollar question. However, in the end, you have to be happy and live your life to suite you.

Answer 9

I did.
I kind of knew how my immediate family felt, but I had no idea of how my extended family felt. But I knew I had to come out and be completely honest.

Being a parent, I knew that the only way to teach my son to be an honest person was to be honest myself.

Answer 10

I have come out to my friends but not my family...they wouldn't understand..if i was gunna tell them i'd wait till i left home first...my friends on the otherhand are really supportive and i thought everything would chnage and they wuold treat me different but they never did && everything is still the same except i am now being myself around them. =]