I love my kids, and I want them to have things like video games and such but they are way behind on home work?

Question

I have 3 kids all under ten. So what do I do?

Answer 1

nothing, they made thier own choice, be bad, or cool toys...

Answer 2

I don't have kids personally, however, my girlfriends do and they have a points system. The video games are in the front room and they are allowed to play for a specified period of time when their homework is done and/or if the get good grades on tests and report cards. It's been working well for them. It goes towards the weekend too. If they do well during the week then they are allowed to play computer or video games during the week and the parents apply the same points to getting new games as well. Check it out on the web.

Answer 3

All you can do is encourage them, and sometimes that requires discouraging factors. Video games are hardly a right of childhood, not to say they don't help children to develop skills in some cases, but priorities are what they are, since they're kids, they can hardly be expected to fully understand why they don't get to establish them for themselves, but as a parent, you're likely far more experienced in such things, and therefore a much better candidate for calling the shots. Stick to your guns, be a mom first, establish friendship as a secondary role.

Answer 4

You are the parent...set boundaries...no video games etc..until homework is done...I have 3 kids also...never been a problem...always been the rule and they know that a rule is a rule in my home. Too much video time isnt healthy... kick them outside for some fresh air and exercise...I would say an hour of screen time is enough for any child....that is either games, tv or computer time..... I have different limits depending on which child it is (age) and also if its the weekend or holiday. Have a family meeting and discuss boundaries and new rules....for there health and happiness...there is more to life than screen time!!

Answer 5

Look it may be hard but you have to put your foot down and let them know the importance of a good education. I work with children everyday and that's my job and I love it. But a lot of the things that they go through begins at home. You don't have to cut them off completly from having fun but you have to stress to them that they can't play games until their work is done.

One way to help them is to help tem with their homework if you can. If that's not possible then there are plenty of tutuors that help children get theor work done. You don;t have to bribe your kids to get their work done they either do it or they don;t get to do the things that they want to do. No tv, no video games, no extracurricular sports or anything.

You have to set an example for your kids in order for them to get it. Don;t go back on your word if you say no video games then no video games. Simple as that. I can't stress enough the importance of education and how they are going to need it to become sucessful adults in this world. Even me only having a college degree am in need of furthering my education. Education is a life long quest that never ends. Hang in there with them and show them that you do care don't just tell them to get it done help them. There are ways to tunr this around before it's too late. Good luck

Answer 6

Stop rewarding them for unacceptable behavior would be a nice start. So what... they are all under 10. They need to learn responsibility just like every other child. No homework... No extras.
Another thing... you might want to help them with their homework. There may be a slight disability keeping them from retaining the things they see and learn. Help those kids!

Answer 7

Homework first reward later... Try coming up with a schedule to work both things in....I wouldn't do video games every day though because that is more of a privilege and kids need exercise more than anything these days!

Answer 8

Don't be a weak parent. Put your priorities in order. School is that priority for them, so since you are the parent act like it! Don't worry about being their friend. They may even get angry at you, and possibly even blurt out that they "hate" you, or that you are "mean", for not letting them have their way. You may suffer some hurt feelings of your own, but suck it up, and correct your children. You need to use old fashioned type of discipline. As kids get closer to teenage years, they act less appreciative of their parents, and become rebellious. You have to learn to deal with it head on, or they will walk all over you! Don't enable them with bribes. Try not to show favoritism especially in front of the other children. Most parents hate to admit it, but they always favor one of their children over another.
While yours are still young, and under ten, it is easier to shape their wills, and direct their steps. Video games, cartoons, t.v. and staying up late, are always areas of contention with them at that age, but you have to win. By and by they will appreciate the big picture down the road, but not at this time. Nevertheless, you have a job, responsibility, and duty to do for their well being, which they don't even have a clue about. Believe it or not, kids cling to the parent who is more firm, but consistent, and still knows how to relay love through it all, as opposed to the one who tries to be their friend, and lets them get away with anything!Do it right, and you will have your reward later! Do it wrong or not at all, then you will kick and hate yourself later, wondering what you did wrong!

Answer 9

Well, you can bargain with them-tell them that they can play video games ONLY if they finish their homework first. Also try to get the more educational video games, they have them for kids under ten.

Answer 10

If you love your kids than you need to teach them some tough loving. Take away their video games or limit it. If you continue this it can become a addicting habit for your kids. Teach them the value of education, knowledge is power. power is respect, not video games. Video games and T.V. is what makes most kids fat and lazy, look at what most of America has become today-fat and lazy.

Answer 11

Parenting is hard at times, isn't it? If you really love your kids, then education should come first. Video games are not going to help them live in the world or get a job. Stand firm.