and they say that i should to it but i don't know if i should wait for the special guy because am so tiered of watting or should i just get married and then have sex
2007-03-14 09:51:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's hard to say. That has to be your choice and it is your body. Sharing that part of love is the most amazing thing that you will ever experience. I will tell you something that my late brother told me it's addictive, because of how it changes love for you and how you connect. Don't have sex cause everyone else does. You are your own person right! You only get to lose your virginity once in a life time, you make sure that is not for granted or you may really regret it when the guy of your dreams is found and he has been saving himself for you.
I was in your shoes with my wife, and it tore me up when I told her the truth. Just be careful.
2007-03-14 10:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by parkster1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question - and good that you can ask it, it shows you're thinking.
Would it change your thinking if you knew that after you had sex you would feel exactly the same in every way except with added worry about pregnance, STD's and even feeling slightly "cheaper"? I wish someone had explained all that to me, I figured I would feel more complete somehow afterward.
My advice is not to have sex ever. No, seriously - eventually you will find yourself in a committed relationship that's lasted long enough to really know the other person. You will reach a point where "sex" is simply a natural way of showing love and affection.
If you're asking if you are ready, that is proof that you are not.
Don't feel like you're missing out on anything just because others are doing it, they're probably doing lots of other stupid things you needn't do as well.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 16:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Savannah Guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, wait, wait for the special guy.
I didn't have sex for the first time until I was twenty one, and it was the best decision I have ever made. The man I lose it to is the most deserving of this special gift I can give only once.
All my friends lost it way back in high school. I have opprotunities, but I listened to my mother's advise.
Please wait dear, to at least you are eighteen and would be more mature to handle the consequences, such as STD's and pregnancy. It can happen, STD's for me is reason enough not to sleep around and with just anybody.
It will be worth the wait, I promise.
2007-03-14 16:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by What Do I Know? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel ready, you're not ready. Don't let the people around you pressure you to do, because pressure is the wrong reason to do it, and then you'll regret what you've done. Instead, wait until you have found the right person and know that you love that person (be sure to use a condom because you don't want to contract an STD).
2007-03-14 16:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's an idea. Forget what everyone else says or has done. Try thinking for yourself. Sex is so overated. It is fun, but only with the one your committed to. All other is just a waste of time. Build the relationship, then enjoy the person, and the sex is the by product.
2007-03-14 16:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Cabana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is awesome, and it's definitely worth the wait. Don't rush it, and don't do it just because everyone else is. It's very special, it's the most intimate that you'll ever be with another person, don't just allow that closeness, that extreme transparency with any old "joe." Wait, wait for just the right one. If possible let it be your husband (optimal).
2007-03-14 16:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your married - you'll be glad you did. Regardless of what you decided, sex should not be had out of peer pressure. I promise you - if you're not ready, you'll regret and you only get one first time. You want it to be special and with someone you love and who loves you 100%. No doubts - that's why it's best to wait unti your married.
2007-03-14 16:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard not to do what everyone else does but this is one issue where you CAN wait! you know when you're ready because you will know if the guy you're with is the one you would like to spend the rest of or even most of your life with. I know its hard to wait because of the peer pressure but when you're friends start having sex and then breaking up with these guys and completely regretting it, you will know you made a smart choice. trust me on this one.
2007-03-14 16:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by marchingcomet28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't get married just for sex, it is a special thing, and you should wait for that special person. Don't let peer pressure cause you do do something that you will later regret.
2007-03-14 16:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So u be different its good to b different. You're unique person that the Lord has made. You'll have something to offer your husband.Keep up the good work don't give in and you'll see how good it feels when you get married to the right person.
2007-03-14 20:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋