ok i'm almost 15. Well for the longest time ( not much anymore) when ever i would get in trouble my parents would ground me from going to church. Now i'm not saying ground me from going to fun youth activities, but actual church on sundays and wednesdays for an entire month. and i'd be gounded for something really stupid. For emample either i forgot to do one of my chores, or i answered a question with a bad tone-yeah, s-t-u-p-i-d. Anyways, i want to know if that is right because i don't think it is. so please tell me your opinion!!! thanks!
2007-03-14 09:50:56 · 26 answers · asked by Kristen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NO NO NO!! that is the gayest thing i have everheard of! lol....
^^^ AND THAT GUY IS ON CRACK... YOU SHOULD NOT BE PERMANENTELY GROUNDED FROM CHURCH^^^^
2007-03-14 09:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I think it is horrible to keep a child from God. I have never heard of such. Sometimes parents get it twisted and think by making their child go to church...THAT is a punishment... Boy is that wrong. Whenever you punish a child and keep them from church there is something unnatural going on. Prayer and worship is not something you do out of convenience. It is a lifestyle. If this bothers you enough... I would talk to them about it. Offer another punishment to them. Watch you tone of voice and mind your manners. If it fails... bring it up to a guidance counselor in your school. I am a spiritual not religious person but I tell you this... NOWHONE will ever keep me from my God. Whether you are going for the activities or the music, the prayer or the sermon, that is not relevant. As long as you are there with a clean heart and an open mind darlin.... you are there for the right reasons.. I wish you the best in this situation Honeychild...
2007-03-14 10:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by fatbabyceesay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the goal of groundation is to prevent a child from leaving the home, and the family doesn't live in a church, i'd say it's justifiable, at least technically. I can't say I'd suggest limiting a childs spiritual aspirations, but that can, and should be pursued outside of church anyway. Furthermore, if the child is only interested in going to church because it's not home, that is hardly adequate justification for going to church, a person should want to be there for the right reasons, otherwise the entire process becomes detrimental to one's spirirtual wellbeing, essentially we should be aware that our thoughts do betray us. It's likely that your parents have your best interests in mind, with that in mind, I would recommend that you try and give them the benefit of the doubt.
2007-03-14 10:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by shades 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you have strong religious convictions. Does god only live in church, or is he everywhere?
If you can't get to church, for whatever reason, how about performing charity work? Check out the Salvation Army, and the work they do with the homeless.
Would your parents be upset if you suddenly said "I don't WANT to go to church tomorrow- I want to feed the homeless at the shelter" ? Would they feel that their punishment system has worked a little too well ?
2007-03-14 09:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Alan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you use the church as a social gathering place rather than a place of worship. Then you should be grounded. Especially if your not honoring your parents wishes around the house. Don't blame them for the bad choices you make.
2007-03-14 09:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cabana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea behind grounding someone is to punish them. If you really enjoy going to church then I guess that would count as punishment. Personally I never looked forward to going anyway so that would be like grounding me from school.
2007-03-14 09:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I don't think that anyone should use Church as a punishment... Whether it is to punish a child by making them go to church or punish them by not letting them go, but if you really enjoy going then maybe they thought that was the only way to get through to you.
Try talking to them and see what comes of it.
2007-03-14 09:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Chris B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never ground my child from church. That is so wrong of your parents... Church is a house of the good lord above, they should want you to be there.
2007-03-14 09:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you like going to church then yeah. The point of punishment is to take something from you that you enjoy.
2007-03-14 10:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy church, then grounding you from it is an appropriate punishment.
Punishment is all about creating a consequence so that you think before you act later on. If not going to church is a big deal for you, then that's an effective consequence, and you will indeed think better in the future.
If you don't care at all about going to church, then that's not very effective at all. If that's the case, I wouldn't tip your parents off to it.
2007-03-14 09:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by Steven D 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
The only time it's okay if the church is cult-like (which some youth-oriented churches are!). But, I doubt yours is. Tell them you would of course be upset if they grounded you from activities, but you think that would be fairer than for you to be disallowed to worship.
2007-03-14 09:53:47 · answer #11 · answered by Esma 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋