Hey all,
I worked with a lovely woman for two years ('03-'05). She sat across from me at work and we chatted all the time. We eventually started emailing one another. Each of us were/are basically sick of our spouses and their antics. I fell hard for her, so much so that I would have sacrificed EVERYTHING to be with her.
She and I haven't worked together now for about 2 years but we STILL keep in touch EVERYDAY by email. She told me a while ago that she doesn't feel the same way toward me, but I keep hoping.
She is 34, married with 3 kids aged 4, 6, & 10. I am 44, separated, with kids aged 14 & 21. She left her husband last year for about 4 months then went back with him. They are still very much at odds with each other though.
So I haven't seen or talked to her for 2 years. Should I give this "relationship" up even though it would kill me? I mean after 4 years of constant communication you think that if she liked me at all she would have told me by now, right??
2007-03-14 09:40:32 · 13 answers · asked by top40oldies 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of you aren't understanding that we are still in communication nearly everyday via email. It's that I haven't physically seen or talked to her in 2 years...
2007-03-14 10:47:51 · update #1
Here is your sign
"She told me a while ago that she doesn't feel the same way toward me, but I keep hoping."
Walk away and find someone that appreciates you! She will probably never leave her husband, just people just love to live in misery
2007-03-14 09:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You cant have real feelings for a girl youve never met in person. Youre in love with the idea of being in love again and all the excitement of feeling young again. On the computer you can be who ever or do whatever you want to be. Doesnt always work out that way in real life. Your imagination is running wild here, probably conjuring up the perfect love affair with the perfect life and end up happily ever after. Its possible but doubt it would happen that way. Youre probably thinking that both of your spouse will step aside, grant you an easy divorce so you two could be together,too. On paper or computer everyone can make themselves out to be the perfect affair mate, but once met everything changes in a minute. Forget her and return to your family. Remember its not having what you want but wanting what you have. Also what youre feeling for her is exactly what you felt for your wive just prior to marriage. Dont let the delusion of grandeur ruin the rest of your life. Good luck
2007-03-14 09:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there mate
In my personal opinion you should really start thinking about finding someone else, after so long it appears to me she really does not know what or who she wants. this situation can cause a lot of grief for you and you do not need to put yourself through this,I have been in the same or similar situation and I regret wasting the time for her to make up her mind.
I got on with my life,(although it was not easy at first I found getting out and on with my life eventually found someone who really loves me as I her.
We have been married 10 years and still very close.
Give it some time get out and live.
Good luck Terry
2007-03-14 09:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by tellme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, how do you experience approximately this? Thats the substantial question. i've got not got the main quantity of friends, no person i ought to call a only right pal. yet there ought to be somebody that ought to evaluate you a chum? What approximately your character? Are you a quiet guy or woman? friendly? Or do you only no longer permit human beings get close? you need to attempt only going right into a pub, only have a drink and you will meet human beings. golf equipment are not the only right places to stumble on human beings inspite of the indisputable fact that. With all that alcohol.
2016-09-30 22:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by lichtenberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have enough respect for her & what she is doing now. Which is working on her marriage. Walk away you will feel so much better later on down the road for doing the right thing in this situation.
2007-03-14 09:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. She no longer needs you as a friend to unwind on. Don't hurt this family by trying to get back in touch with her.
2007-03-14 09:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE! Shes MARRIED!!! as were you! hence the reason she is willing to try and make her marriage work and you are seperated! get a cluse and realize that A. she has already told you NO and NO MEANS NO, B. you are a stumbling block for her and her marriage and you NEED to remove yourself immediately! not just for her marriage but there are CHILDREN INVLOVLED!!!!! WOW! PLEASE don't be that dense!!!!!!
2007-03-14 09:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that it's over. But one never knows for sure. If you NEED to know, then contact her. But be prepared for whatever she may tell you. Then either proceed, OR
once and for all, let it go. Best wishes for strength to do what you need to do.
2007-03-14 09:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you never really had a relationship--just pen pals. Ask her what her intention is and be done with it one way or another.
2007-03-14 09:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are delusional. This woman doesn't want anything to do with you. She is working on her marriage.
Leave her alone and find someone who wants to be with you.
2007-03-14 09:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋