My friend has told me that her mates boyfriend has made a pass at her several times when they have been alone together, coz he pops over to her house without his gf.
She has told him lots of times that it would never happen and that she respects her friend too much, but she asked me if she should tell her friend.
I said that she should but she is worried about losing her friends friendship, coz he has cheated on her before and she never believed it.
2007-03-14 09:31:50 · 26 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would tell him that if he made a pass at me once more I would tell his girlfriend.
2007-03-14 09:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First tell the guy that she never wants to see his face at her door again and if he tries it, she will not answer it. That will cover her with her friend and she'll be able to say she asked him not to come to her house and when he did she wouldn't answer. I think that would be a good indication to her friend that she isn't lying. Then, tell the friend. If she doesn't believe her and gets mad at her, well then she was not really her friend to begin with and will end up losing both her friend and eventually the jerk who is probably making passes at many more woman than her. Which would be no great loss to her. She will learn. I hope not the hard way with a broken heart.
2007-03-14 09:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an all too common problem in relationships, especially among young people. Your friend needs to report this gentleman's unwanted advances so that he may confronted. More often than not, men who cheat, get caught, and are forgiven will repeat their romantic crimes. To mature from this painful and disrespectful behavior, this man will have to be abandoned to learning the natural consequences of his actions on his own. He may, though, prey upon another woman whose self-esteem is wrecked and repeat the process all over. This boy knows nothing about love, commitment, respect and common decency. He needs to be relieved of the responsibility of a romantic relationship as he cannot handle being a man. Good luck.
2007-03-14 09:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by voodooprankster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if ur friend didn't do anything with this guy and told him to back off then i think she shud deffo tell her friend that he has made a pass at her. She might see that her bf is a LOSER! or she might be completely stupid and have a go at her friend. But the longer ur friend leaves it the worse it will get this guy is gunna keep goin till he gets what he wants && that will deffo spilt thier friendship up...so i say she shud tell ASAP!
Hope this helps! =]
2007-03-14 11:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell her now. If he has cheated before it is clear that he is not to be trusted. The friend will appreciate the honesty. If it was my friend I would tell her as I value her freindship too much to lose it over a no good man.
2007-03-14 09:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell her friend immediately, and if she doesn't believe her, then when finally does come out and she has to believe (by catching him or some other act) she will probably come back and apologize for not believing you.
We need to be honest with our best friends, we need to treat them the way we want them to treat us. Would you want her to tell you if your BF made a pass at her?
Good luck!
2007-03-14 09:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell, Tell, Tell!
If the bf is making a pass at somebody close to his gf
then imagine what else he must really get up to.
He sounds like a right clown.
Get your friend away from him,
tell her, then it's up to her how she wants to handle it.
If she chooses to stay with him then good for her.
But at least you would have done the right thing.
2007-03-14 09:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by magic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would be good if she was able to record this happening on her mobile phone or something as clear proof that this guy is trying it on. I know this is a ridiculous suggestion, but couldn't you get another friend to hide in a cupboard or something and be a witness to what he's been saying?
2007-03-14 10:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she clearly told him where the boundaries are, and that it'll come back to GET him, then the next time he's there and unwanted, she should make a point to call her gf and then give the phone to him...
2007-03-14 10:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by ...m... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should kick him in the balls and throw him out out. Why does she put herself in a position where he can make a pass at her. She should lock her door. If he tries to see her, she should immediately call her boyfriend and have him "take care of the situation."
2007-03-14 09:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me once and i acted back and my mate found outand went mental but she eventually forgave me. a few weeks later he lept wae someone else and she split up wae him. a few days after she had forgiven him he asked me outinfront of her even tho i wanted to i said no but my mate knew i wanted to and told me just to go for it. So i'd tell your friend to tell her mate it might turn out better in the end.
2007-03-14 09:39:57 · answer #11 · answered by Halloween Child !!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋