hi everyone iam married for 1yr 5mnts,no kid after only an year of marriage we started our life ,within 20days of it , i came to know he is in affair with a lady who he introduced to me b4 our marriage,she is married with 2 kids,i too had a friendship with her without knowing all these,my husband is still continuing with her, thinking like doing all without my knowledge.but somehow i came to know abt everything,we r in US now and that lady is not in this country fortunately,he is talking to her on phone and mailing regularly.he is in that relationship for 8yrs and they always talked thatthey were married.after our marriage and we moved from our country,she also found an other man ,and maintaining with my husband too.my husband told all these to me and he wants to come out of this.he loves her lot i know even he doesnt tell me that,it hurts me.but i couldn't help him and myself to come out of this,my hate for him is growing day by day,atleast for my own family i must live with h
2007-03-14 09:25:10 · 11 answers · asked by rapp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can help him by filing for divorce. If he has been having a relationship with this woman for 8 years and you have only been married for 1 year and 5 months then it sounds like he is cheating on her with you. You should get rid of him so that he can be with the one he seems to really love. Sorry it is not you.
2007-03-14 09:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two were only married a year and he cheated on you? I'm sorry but that does not bode well for the rest of your marriage. I agree with everyone else who says you should leave him and that you deserve better. Your husband should be someone who is your soul mate, the person who loves you most in the world and wants to spend the rest of their life trying to make you happy. Not some loser who cheats on you with someone who's already married as well!
2007-03-14 09:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy.. .I know you already feel bad and your self esteem is probably very low because he left you when you were 8 months pregnant, moved in with the chick and then came back, after impregnating her. I know you've probably called him all the names in the book, none of them nice. I don't know why you are still with him, you may have some really valid reason, but if you can't get past this horrible breach of trust, love, commitment, honesty...then you have already made your decision in your heart and mind...all that's left to do is to put it in action and walk out that door with your head held high!
2016-03-28 23:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship. You have no children to bind you to him. This has obviously severely affected your self esteem, as no self respecting woman would remain in a relationship in which she is fully aware that her partner does not love her. Spare yourself! Your husband is being selfish, and you should not relinquish your standards and hopes of finding love for the sake of his selfishness.
2007-03-14 09:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you have no children together? According to everything you say, I would leave, he's been cheating and involved with another woman the whole time, what kind of marriage is that? He's NOT worth it.
2007-03-14 09:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order for u to feel better about your husband he would have to end his relationship with the other woman. he just has to make a decision that he is going to stop all communication with her, yes u will continue to resent and hate until he begins to treat u with respect and love. there can be no love as long as this woman is in your marriage.
2007-03-14 09:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say no matter how many times he tells you I love you and I'll never do it again he will. Think of your self walk away. There is someone out there who will be true to you. Stay with him and you will always be unhappy. Don't wait till it is to late. Love your self.
2007-03-14 09:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in your car and do 90 on the freeway and watch him through your rear view mirror.
2007-03-14 09:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by McDaniel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too late now pack his bags and get your life restarted he obviously doesn`t love you
2007-03-14 09:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by jim l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better. Leave his azz!
2007-03-14 09:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋