Why do some women turn their heads to their husband's porn watching?

Question

Do the not understand that their man is "cheating" if they are watching porn. In fact, it's worse than if he were actually having sex with another woman. If that were the case at least you can actually do something to seduce your man from the arms of another woman. How can you compete with point, click and jerk?

Are women so egositical and self-absorbed that they cannot see this - as long as if he isn't ACTUALLY having sex with another woman it's ok - That's not a very high standard of fidelity.

Answer 1

I could never turn my head to something like that. I don't really agree with your statement that it's worse than acutally having sex with another woman. It isn't much better though. Thanks to porn, you can see a naked woman anytime you want, there's no mystery or novelty anymore. Porn as a whole has cheapened sexuality. Not only that, it shows unrealistic women in unrealistic situations. Some husbands expect their wives to look and act like porn stars. I read in my psychology book that a study was conducted on men in relationships and pornography. After viewing porn for a specified period, the men rated their own partners as less attractive than they did before viewing the porn. I think some women have just give up. It's so easy to find it online, men just have no self control. It is wrong, it is lusting after someone other than your spouse. I agree, I can't understand how a woman could be comfortable with her man doing that. In this society, morals and values won't be around much longer. It's just gonna be a free for all, whatever and whenever.

Answer 2

I don't see how him watching porn is worse than him sleeping with another woman. If his porn habit is out of control, then its another issue, but if we are talking every now and then watching a video or taking an erotic stroll on the internet, I see nothing wrong with it. Try doing it together, it can be fun!

Answer 3

DOOD. My husband watches porn, and I watch it with him. We may or may not have sex during or after. After all. He does come home to me after work every day. He does sleep with just me. WE have a very good relationship. He is deployed to iraq right now, and think it would be odd if he didn't have porn to watch while he was over there. Afterall. he's not seeing that many women. I think you shoudl broaden your horizons and be a little more open minded.

Answer 4

You are entitled to your opinion, but it is very narrow.

I won't tell you that you are "wrong;" just that there are other alternatives in life, and erotica (porn) is not the Great Evil, anymore than drugs or trans-fat.

First, let's refer to it as erotica. Porn is just a pejorative term, and what I would call the "cheaply made stuff."

Erotica has been around for thousands of years. It began as painting, sculpture and poetry, and eventually evolved into literature, photography, acting, and video.

Erotica is simply an alternative form of sexual arousal; it is harmless fantasy and nothing more.

Regarding fantasy, Helen Fisher ("The First Sex," Ballantine Books, Feb. 2000) says that 71 percent of men and 72 percent of women fantasize while having sex with a partner. Men fantasize about conquest and domination, women about submission and surrender.

Dr. Joyce Brothers says, "It might relieve some of your guilt to know that many happily married individuals who have no thought or intention of ever betraying their spouse have sexual fantasies about someone other than their spouse."

Both men and women (single and in a relationship) have shown a desire to enjoy erotica in some form.

Women should take note that there is a very successful series of erotic anthologies called "Herotica." The stories are all written by female authors - not male!

The latest estimates are that Americans now spend somewhere around $10 billion a year on adult entertainment, which is as much as they spend attending professional sporting events, buying music or going out to the movies.

The erotic industry employs in excess of 12,000 people in California. And in California alone, it accounts for $36 million in taxes every year.

Comcast, the nation's largest cable company, pulled in $50 million from adult programming, and an adult spokesperson estimated that DirecTV pulls in a few
hundred million annually.

Hilton, Marriot, Hyatt, Sheraton and Holiday Inn all offer adult films on in-room pay-per-view television systems. And they are purchased by a whopping 50 percent of their guests, accounting for nearly 70 percent of their in-room profits. One hotel owner said, "We have to have it. Our guests demand it.”

There are well over 800 million rentals of adult videotapes and DVDs in video stores across the country, and that's not 800 guys renting a million tapes each.

As long as a partner is taking care of his/her obligations and responsibilities (job, family) and seeing that the other person is being fulfilled sexually, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with enjoying alternative forms of arousal.

Too often, a woman's reaction to their partner enjoying erotica is one of offense; their sexual identity is somehow threatened; believing that their partner's arousal and satisfaction should come exclusively from their vagina/mouth/hand. That is sad.

There are men in this world that are totally threatened by women's sex toys (vibrators, dildos, etc.), feeling that a woman (their wife, gf) should receive pleasure only from THEM. That is just pathetic. They have some serious self-image/penis issues to deal with.

And then, there are many couples such as ourselves that enjoy a mature, fully-developed sex life.

If a couple is fulfilling each other sexually, the relationship is not "at risk" from erotica.

As regards masturbation, men and women of all ages do it, whether they're married or single.

Statistics show that up to 90% of the total male population masturbates, and based on data collected circa 1977 - 1979, 74% of married women masturbate; 16% of these women did so frequently.

In a 2007 survey conducted by The Gazette - a student newspaper - the results were:

1-3 times a week (M) 26% (F) 39%
4-9 times a week (M) 42% (F) 16%

So, everyone is entitled to their own opinions and practices regarding erotica and masturbation; just stop trying to finger-point and pontificate that either constitute some great evil.

Answer 5

I just answered this question earlier - just a thought here, but do you know someone who's husband is looking at porn and cheating and their wife refuses to acknowledge it? You obviously want answers to this question and there aren't any easy one. Could be denial, could be that they don't view it as a problem, they don't know about it, they don't understand the problem and what could cause it....the list is long.

Answer 6

By what standards do you measure morality?

Because porn is totally ok with me. Cheating? It is ink on a page or pixels on a screen. It is not real. Fantasy.

Answer 7

Loosen up ay! Its no different to reading an erotic novel or fantasizing in your head.

Why does it bother you? You have free reign to get your rocks off without being harassed about it.

How is it self-absorbed or egotistical of women? I think you need to look up those definitions in the dictionary. www.dictionary.com - might help you.

Answer 8

personally as long as hes not choosing the movies over me i could care less in fact i like watching porn and watching it together and without eachother i guess its just prefrence like i said as long as its not being chosen over me whats the big deal?

Answer 9

Yes totally agree............... if its looking together then that's one thing..but porn is a huge, huge problem now adays......too available............