My brother moved in with a black woman. She grew up in the hood and had nothing. My family tried to help. We got her her first car, we paid for her college (she did not attend), they lived in an upper middle class neighborhood. According to her family she was rich. She racked up thousands of $'s in debt she could not pay, she did not work, she spent most of her time in the hood. Fast forward, 3 kids later, she had enough of the lifestyle. My mother is now taking care of all 3 kids. WHY IN MOST BLACK FAMILIES DO THE GRANDPARENTS TAKE THE KIDS? My brother is scum for not taking kids either. Now the mother charges my mother to watch her own kids!!!!! My mother does it because she know the kids will be neglected if she does not raise them. From my intemate view of he family and friends, they are all in debt, they all dont hold jobs well, they all pawn their kids off, nobody aims to be better. This is truly a call for compassionate conversation, not for racist scum to intrude upon..
2007-03-14 09:14:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
My neices are black and I love them beyond words!!!!!
2007-03-14 09:35:40 · update #1
NO drugs are involved in this situation.
2007-03-14 09:36:11 · update #2
She sounds like a total mooch/loser who has no idea how good she had it, or maybe she did and took advantage of it. But women like this come in all colors and nationalities. I don't think her being black has much to do with it. BTW, your brother IS scum for not taking care of his OWN kids and he's not black, so there you have it.
Grandparents raising their grandchildren, while very compassionate, is just not right. Grandparents deserve to enjoy their time; they've raised their kids. I think it's really sad. Your mom sounds like a good woman, but this is not her job. It's really unfair.
2007-03-14 10:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by fun_purple_beach 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really isn't a race thing. you are just as likely to find white people like this woman as you are other blacks.
and the reason why all her friends and family are similar isn't about race either. It's just the fact that like minded people usually hang out with other like minded people.
and as for do most black families have the grand parents raise their kids is not true. yes it sometimes happens but it is far form the norm. Usually when it does happen it's because the grandparents will most likely be better parents then their kids (for different reasons)
2007-03-14 09:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by goldenbrowngod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your brother made a bad choice. But obviously if he is not taking care of his kids then he is not much better than she is now is he? That being said, "MOST" black kids are not raised by their grand parents. Maybe there are a lot of them, but not "MOST."
Now if your brother and this woman lived together then they racked up the debt together. Even if they were not married.
To answer your question I think interracial relationships can last. I dont believe they are automatically doomed to failure.
2007-03-14 10:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For all their good intentions, the relationships only work if they are on the same educational level. You know as well as I do that there are very intelligent and educated blacks. They do hold jobs and succeed in life. It's gonna be the same if an educated classy black is with a trashy white girl and believe me, there are plenty of those. The key to the whole mess is drug use. Why you'd blame the black girl for the kids not being cared for when your brother is just as much to blame baffles me. You went through a long list of her faults with only one mention of him. I'm willing to bet he is involved with the drug culture. None of them care about their kids, only about the next hit. Drugs are color blind. God Bless your mom for taking all this on.
2007-03-14 09:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah, that sounds awful... Don't blame the race though...
I am answering this because I dated a beautiful black girl for about 4 and a half years... things weren't working out the best for the last couple months so she left, but, it had nothing to do with the race thing...
So yes, relationships can last, and no, the race isn't to blame... if you are seeing cultural differences cause a problem, remember that the individuals involved are the ones who either ALLOW the surroundings to influence their relationship, or DISALLOW it. So it's an individual thing...
if you are too attached to your race and not as attached to your lover, it's YOUR FAULT, not the race's.
Just my opinion.
2007-03-14 09:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, relationships between blacks and whites do last. My uncle and my aunt( who is white) are still happily married, a friend of mine married a white guy and they are still married and happier than ever.To me cultures are not a big issue for me personally, if the two individuals are good people than they will work out their differences in a loving way. But sad to say , to put this in a simpler way, if the person in the relationship ,no matter what race/culture is, is not a honest trust worthy individual who is in love and have feelings for his/her partner than the relationship itself won't last.
2007-03-14 09:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by channel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it just sounds like your brother chose a hoodrat. But don't base all black/white relationships on that poor excuse for a woman. In my personal experience in three different cities I've seen many white females who live off welfare and do nothing with their lives. Sounds like you're trying to judge "black culture" by this one girl's actions. Not cool.
2007-03-14 09:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Xena_fire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It can work. There are no huge cultural difference for people born in America.
2007-03-14 09:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's environmental, not genetic.
2007-03-14 09:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Irreverend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋