I have had two miscarriages at 6 weeks. After 2 D&C's I'm starting to lose hope. Any advise?

Question

Getting pregnant does not seem to be a problem for my husband and I so far. I was on birth control the first time and later conceived again 2 cycles after my first D&C. Both times ultrasounds showed a gestational sac,yolk sac, and a fetal pole but never a heartbeat. My husband and I are both healthy active 25 year olds. It just doesn't seem to make sense.

Answer 1

I had two miscarriages in the past as well. I am 5 months pregnant now and the baby is doing wonderful. Don't give up! I know it is painful but keep trying. Also talk to your doctor to make sure you are not having problems with fertility.

Answer 2

You didn't say how old you are, and that may have some bearing on the problem. When I became pregnant at 34, after being told all my life I'd have to take fertility drugs to conceive, I of course was concerned about my age and pregnancy. My doctor then told me that before the age of 22 and after the age of 37 are the most dangerous ages for child bearing problems. Of course that was some years ago, so I don't know what medical science says today. I can tell you this, I have a beautiful and healthy 21-year-old daughter who is intelligient, loving, and happy. So waiting until you're older can be very rewarding in many ways.

I'd say your body is telling you you're not ready for children. Since you've had 2 miscarraiges in 6 weeks, you should allow your body to rest for a reasonable time...like say at least 6 months. Give it time to heal from the shock of the miscarraiges & D&C's.

If you haven't already, you should also see your doctor and find out if there's an explanation for your problems.

I don't know that I'd give up, but I'd at least take some time off. Be patient. Relax! Forget about it for awhile and concentrate on something else. If you're young, you have lots of time!

Look, even if you never have children, it doesn't mean you're any less of a woman or person. It has NOTHING to do with your identity.

Wait awhile, then go on a relaxing vacation and, well, you never know! Good things come to those who wait!

Good luck!

Answer 3

while you're feeling ok now and are only getting (what appears like) a bloody discharge and clots, i could assume you had an early miscarriage. the undertaking to think of roughly that, i comprehend this sounds harsh, is that a million in 4 pregnancies ends this way and that's just about cellular adjustments no longer being suitable. maximum folk of those pass thoroughly undetected and your physique only does what its meant to and clears out what isn't mandatory using fact an inviable being pregnant is as conventional as a workable being pregnant and your physique is familiar with what to do approximately it. This has occurred to me two times now. this could all be taken care of (if something grow to be necessary) on the national wellbeing provider in this u . s . a . so i can not advise you approximately your coverage situation using fact i do no longer understand something approximately it yet what i'm attempting to declare is whether or no longer that's unsightly and unusual, that's not strange, that's only nature doing its situation so do no longer hassle approximately what would or will possibly no longer take place. The M be conscious arises and human beings (needless to say) panic and picture Oh God what do i'd desire to do and in a super form of situations that's not something. save an eye fixed out for signs and indicators of an infection (raised temp, abdo discomfort, pungent discharge and so on) and in that occasion seek for help yet in any different case only permit your physique do its situation and all would be high quality. The NHS do no longer even look at miscarriage till you have had 3 (which I say to coach how hassle-loose that's) so only be super on your physique till each and every thing's back to conventional and be watchful for something out of the traditional.

Answer 4

Don't lose hope my sister had two miscarriages but now she has two beautiful babies (2 year old girl 9 month old boy). after she had her second miscarriage she had all kinds of tests done to see if something was wrong or if she had Lupus (sp) but they didn't find anything.
I have personally had one miscarriage but now have a 2 year old and one on the way.
have you been to the doctor to have them give you test to see if there is any underlining medical problem, check everything out before you give up, if there is any thing wrong you could always adopt (don't exclude those beautiful children who are often neglected but need good homes and families )
good luck

Answer 5

I have had my tubes tied, untied and had a chemical pregnancy that the doctor gave me methotextrate shot and a d&c, this last loss in 1/07 I did not have to endure that again.
However I want to let you know the giving up is easier then ttc. I have been ttc for 2 years, still after two losses. Not to mention age, I am 35 going on 36 in August. I was done, MY DD and DS are 14 and 12!
Don't give up if this is what you really want. Relax though. You are giving it to much thought, my last pregnancy I gave up completely and that is when I got pregnant. Just have fun sex but always do it in the baby making styles ...missionary or any position that is going to leave his sperm inside longer. I am sure it will happen, After a year too you can consult your OB/GYN and talk to them about reasons for the losses and ttc with no luck..
Best wishes to you, your welcome to join me for free on our message center.

Answer 6

Don't lose hope! I had three D&Cs in 2001, 2005 and 2006... and now I'm trying for the 4th time. I'm not giving up. I'm on my 7th week and hoping this one will work!

I always hoped for the best everytime I got pregnant. If it fails, we're only human, we must accept it, but we still can keep on trying...

Answer 7

I have a friend who had a miscarriage, then a child with special needs, then 4 miscarriages FOUR! And then a totally healthy child. I am hoping that helps and gives you a little bit of hope. :)

Answer 8

Stop worrying and stop trying. Look at Angelina, she adopted and then had a natural child. You need some expert help, have your ob-gyn tell you why this is occuring and if total bed rest the first 3 months would help.

Answer 9

Yes!! don't be discouraged, my mom had 4 miscarriages before having my youngest sister. it is nothing to worry about and if your that worried about it you should talk to your dr. and see if they might be able to help you to get pregnant and stay pregnant...you can also talk to your local Womens Care Center, which is what i did b/c i as well had two miscarriages...nothing to worry about, you will get pregnant and stay pregnant when your body is ready! i hope this helps and sooths your mind! Good Luck!

Answer 10

There is nothing anyone can say to ease or calm your mind. Everyone deals with grief and loss in different ways.
I was told that you are not considered "infertile" until you have had a min. of 3 m/c...
If you believe in God, pray.