WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU FOUND OUT YOUR 14 OR 15 YEAR OLD WAS DRINKING.
dont just say i would ground her tell me for how long and what you mean by grounding for some it means no friends for others it means no tv and for some it means in your room all day what do you mean by it
2007-03-14 08:58:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i would not let her go anywhere exept for school
2007-03-18 07:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by 789512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I would do is take the time to discuss drinking and why drinking is not allowed by children and the consequences of drinking. You should set the bar high, ground your child from all activity for a minimum of 2 weeks, then 2 more weeks of letting them have TV, but not going out anywhere. Here are some tips:
1 Set a good example for your children.
2 Be factual when you discuss drinking. Don’t damage your credibility with scare tactics.
3 Set firm rules and guidelines. Make them clear and with enforceable consequences.
4 Continue to practice good parenting. Do things together as a family and create an atmosphere of open communication.
5 Help your children to know what real friendship is all about and get to know their friends and their families as well.
6 Get help if you need it, or if you suspect that your child is drinking.
7 Make it a joint endeavor if your teen wants to host a party.
With so many parents out of the house it sets the child up for disaster, between parents working and single mothers the drinking epidemic is rising. Be sure to get to know your child's friends and their parents!! This can also help.
2007-03-14 16:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by Rhonda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen...This could be hard, but before you set your foot down talk to her, be reasonable and before punishments be her friend. Ask her the reason why she was doing this? is there anything bothering her? maybe as mentioned already it was peer pressure, find out the source. After talk to her and let her know what happens when you drink.. not only at a young age but any age, maybe rent a movie (educational) about drinking, maybe also smoking, and good time for sexual talk as well. Try to be a good mother by being a good friend, if you just punish her and don't hear her out this could show her that maybe she can't turn to you whenever she has a problem, so just hear her out and then let her know by drinking she will be punished. By then she can understand and respect it better. Punish her by not only not allowing her to watch tv, or talk on the phone that is too childish for that age. But maybe find out in your community if there is a shelter or place she can go and help out those in need. maybe also aa meeting, so she can see extents of drinking. Remind her she will be 21 and will have her life ahead to drink and do other things but for the time being enjoy her teen years =) hope it helps,
2007-03-14 16:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by GIGI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first it is typical for a 14-15 year old to drink. think about it. I know i did back then and that was a long long time ago. so I would make the grounding. No friends but not no tv.
2007-03-14 16:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started drinking when I was 12 but I had allot of problems at home. It really depends on the relationship you have with your child. The only thing that my mother could do is take away the TV. Everything else a teenager is allowed to do I couldn't do & my mother & I never got along, so when she caught on that I was drinking it was too late. I was an alcoholic at 16.
I think that may b if my mother would have showed me how important I was for her then maybe just I would have calmed down.
It could also b curiousity, peer presure, or trying to fit in with crowed.
The only thing you can do is talk to your child. Find out what's going on & how the problem can be fixed.
It is really up to you what kind of punishment this behavior deserves.
Good luck
2007-03-14 16:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by castillo5247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you ahve to put her on strict punishment. Do you take her to school? if so be srue you take her inside, and pick her up at the end of hte day, No privlages, such as tv, phone, video games, ect., she must spend all of her time with the family, and talk to her about everything when having these family times, and reassure her you are not trying to be mean but you are trying to show her that drinking is very wrong no matter what age you are. take her to the police station show her pictures of Drinking and driving, go over the rules of drinking. Be sure she understands that if she drinks and walks home she can still be stopped and given a ticket. Sound ridiculous but its true. Be hard but pursuasive and talk to her as much you can.
2007-03-14 16:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that age and I did those things, i got my *** kicked. and then i was not allowed to go anywhere with out my mom, for a month and i could do what ever at home just not leave it...
Im a bit older now ... and I still am a drinker ... I did it when i was 14 and 15 and 16 and 17 and 18 and 19 and 20 nothing my parents did stopped me from getting piss drunk and passing out ... it was what i liked to do... and i still enjoy it
2007-03-14 16:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by hc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ground her for a month no tv no going out with her friends just sitting in her room.
2007-03-14 16:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by gEt In ThE cAr [DaRnIt] 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well have you bothered asking her why she did it?? Maybe it was peer pressure and she really didn't intend to, but then got guilted into it by her friends. I think it's more important to talk to her and really explain why drinking at her age is just not really that cool. Instead of just shoving her into her room for X amount of days, get to the heart of why she's acting out. You may be surprised by her answer, and be able to find another way to help her.
2007-03-14 16:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by Queenelizabeth79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call maury povich. tell your child that there are dangers involved in drinking. they are more likely to be in car accidents, if it's a girl they can get pregnant because if they are sleeping around while drinking they have poor judgement, and have them talk to a therapist or counselor. ask them why they are drinking, if they are drinking because their friends are then they need new friends and a reality check. if they want to be cool they need to stop drinking before they ruin their life. forbid them to go anywhere other than school. for at least 3 months or until they start acting like their age.
2007-03-14 16:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take her to an alcoholics anonymous meeting. i would take her to the bad part of town an talk to a few homeless people and prostitutes and have them explain to her what role alcohol as played in their lives. ask them to tell her what they think about a kid her age drinking. she probably wont "hear" anything u tell her about drinking, but let her see what it does in real life situation, let her smell it and be near it and realize thats the road shes on, and that those people use to be use to be 14 yrs old and they loved having fun and partying too
2007-03-14 18:40:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋