my friend who has been married for 24 yrs in a bad marriage is finally getting out but she is also now seeing a married man. i can not understand how she could do this and live with herself because we both know the hurt it causes.
2007-03-14 08:53:23 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would not support this, you should tell her to put herself in the position of the man's wife, how terrible it would be to find this out, your friend is undoubtedly suffering from low self esteem, help her to see that she is better than this and deserves to be more than the "other woman"
2007-03-14 08:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bubba 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't support her at all. You tell her you don't want to hear anything about your affair to this marry man. Ask her where did her morals go.Ask her do you feel safe with a married man because you where married for so long. Tell her every married man is not good, just because there married. And let her know that there are lots of single men who don't want a comment, if that's why she with this married man, no comment. Or is she just checking this married man out and wants to know why married men cheat. There's lots of reasons why women like married men. She going to get paid back. But you don't support her on that. She a big girl and she knows what she doing. Tell her you don't want nothing to do with that. A good friend will stand up to whats right. And your friend is wrong. Tell her to call up Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger in tell her this or you call and ask this question. she one 640am 12noon-3pm Mon-Fri southern ca time.
2007-03-14 09:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on that status of the other marriage. Your friend may be setting herself up for even more hurt and is reason enough to discourage her.
Married man secret = We will not leave our wife for a mistress. We have the best of two worlds by having both. We don't get dinged divorcing her, child support, etc. And we get good times with our mistress(es).
I feel dating married people not in the process of divorce is wrong. But to each his own.
2007-03-14 09:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a true friend you will support her- not her decision. I would be guessing here, but it sounds like your friend has low self esteem issues. Her last companion probably treated her badly, so she feels like she does not deserve to be with a good, honest man. Also, maybe the married man feels safe to her, because she knows she will not be able to marry him and be stuck in another bad marriage.
By the way, there are plenty of good men out there. It is just hard to sort through the creepy jerks to find them.
2007-03-14 09:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can related to your friend I am in the very begining stages of divorce and I have ahd my fun with one imparticular married man and its fun and he is married and has a kid I do not have any kids maybe they are both lonly and there spouces dont make them feel special anymore and they have eachother for this and this is what is helping your friend get though this rough time in her life I am not saying that is not wrong because it is but it is a hard thing to do so just be there for her and do not judge her until you have walked a mile in her shoes.
2007-03-14 09:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by firecrackertx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't support her and if she wants to go to hell then let her go by herself. She just got out of a bad marriage and thats no reason to ruin another person's family cause that is what she is doing. Some women are just so selfish that it is totally unreal. No you encourage her to find a man of her own and leave that married man alone cause they both are sinning before God by committing adultry.
2007-03-14 09:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you care for this friend of yours and you disagree then you must tell her she is wrong in doing this. It not only hurts someone else but it hurts herself in the process. She should be able to have some self respect and how can you actually have self respect in doing something that morally she couldn't stand if it was done to her?
2007-03-14 09:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't support her choice to be with a married man when she knows he is married.That's wrong it doesn;t give her the right just because she was in a bad marriage and is only now getting out of it.She should be looking for a man she can actually have and be with no strings attached that's how problems start in the first place she's stupidly jumping from one bad scene to another???
2007-03-14 08:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't support her decision. Not only is it wrong and awful, but she should know the problems it causes and the drama that will ensue. There are so many single guys out there, there isn't any reason she needs to be with another woman's husband.
2007-03-14 08:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should support her or not since it is wrong. But you can try to speak to her and tell her to imagine how the wife would feel if she found out. Also you can help her meet other men than the guy who is married too.
Hope it turns out all right!
2007-03-14 08:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋