child.i'm only 19,shes 16.and my friend(auror)is 18.i am so not ready to be a dad..yeh ya probably sayin that shes not ready either,sorry to sound selfish but i am sure she will ask for help if needed. i dont even like the girl,and i have a massive crush on auror.and heck if the kid is mine then it will ruin any chances i have with him. but it cant be mine it has to be her boyfriends(his cousins).the ***** is trying to turn everyone against me.can i force her to abort it?
2007-03-14 08:53:13 · 26 answers · asked by seer_and_auror 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
actually 16 is legel in the uk.
2007-03-14 09:13:27 · update #1
whos to say they didn't have unprotected sex?he seems vague about the whole thing.and never said how old the boyfriend of the girl was.so i assume he is older then all of them.its a shame people think they knwo the score and judge quickly.
she is probably looking to muck up whatever it is you and your friend have.and also as its his cousin she is with,shes probably trying to stir up trouble for all of you.forget about her.get him to talk to his cousin about it all.dont worry too much.shes probably not even up the duff.
2007-03-14 11:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by capitalbuddha 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK calm down..... I had my first child at the age of 18 and the guy was 19 so your not alone. Now the first thing you need to do is support her because the last thing you need is to pay child support on a baby you can't even see. Even if the baby isn't yours you need to be on the safe side..... like taking her to doctors visits, so when the baby is born and the DNA test proves you are the father you can have joint custody and you won't have to pay child support. I know you are thinking in your head you can't stand her, but you didn't have any complains when you were getting a nut. Second if this baby is yours, yes your right it will change your life not ruin it. If anything the baby will help you find girls/boys, Women/Men love babies. Just chill and take my advice I know what I am talking about and don't take your hate out on the baby it didn't do anything wrong.Hope I could help.
2007-03-14 16:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Rose K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not... and how dare you ask such a question? You already made your choice when you slept with her and now you have to step up to the plate and deal with the consequences. Learn to keep your zipper up. Sorry if it sounds prudish, but come on!
A paternity test is a reasonable request since she is sexually active with more than one man. Maybe the baby isn't yours. But whatever you do, DO NOT turn it into a huge drama where people are yelling at each other. Be nice. It's the best way to take care of things. Trust me - I've seen what making a sideshow out of these things can do to people. It isn't pretty. Don't know why, but I wish both of you morons the best...
2007-03-14 16:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a good topic for maury....but hey if you did it then its your fault, you say your only 19 but obviously old enough to have unprotected sex. Your best bet after the baby is born get a DNA test and hope the child is not yours. And no you can not force a woman to abort its her choice, its time to step up to the plate and stop being an immature a**. Its called being an adult you should try it sometime.
2007-03-14 16:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by sparkle_babi86 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You better pray that she will not call the authorities for child rape. Although you are still a teen, you are considered as of legal age and she is still a minor. Your best bet is to keep the young girl happy so she will not have any plans to get you locked up. If she keeps the child, make sure you request for a DNA testing. I am hoping that the child is not yours. Be careful next time you drink around females other than your girlfriend. Okay?
2007-03-14 16:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by smilelyt38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man enough to lie down with a lady, then be man enough to take responsibilties for your actions!
You cant force her to abort her unborn child, imagine how you'd feel if your mother told you that your dad wanted you aborted because your dad really fancied your mum's best mate.
Next time think with your head and not your kn@b and just pray her dad dont come after you with a big shot gun if it turns out you are "The Daddy"
2007-03-14 19:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its easy to blame things on alcohol...thats why you should be more careful. Now if she is pregnant you need to be a man about what has happened. An of course you can force her and it would be very selfish of you if you tried to force her. And why cant it be yours? Did you have protected sex? If not you know full well it could be yours. Grow up and deal with this situation.
2007-03-14 16:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on earth did you have sex with a 16yr old ?? yes it may be legal in the uk but it still doesn`t make it right ! you are 19 and shes 16 thats bad ! damage is done now , no-one here can help you , you have to be a man and face up to many things now ..
i wish you luck and pray to God this girl isn`t pregnant , at 16 she could be playing games with you , shes still a child and immature ...
2007-03-14 16:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you can't force her to abort, if only life was so simple, if you don't think it is yours then say so, ask for a DNA test when it is born, which will prove one way or the other, if it is yours, I'd want to have to help support it, as it wood be my flesh and blood, getting married is definitely out of the question, don't loose sight of the child though as it will want to know who you are when it grows up, and you may even enjoy being a weekend father as the saying goes
2007-03-14 16:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force her to abort it. You will have to wait until the child is born and then get a DNA test. It will be okay though, try not to stress too much. Stay calm and go talk to someone older, or a professional.
2007-03-14 15:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have went in head first without a raincoat buddy!!! When the baby is born, take a DNA test to determine if it's yours. Hopefully it won't damage the relationship that you have with auror.
2007-03-14 16:02:08 · answer #11 · answered by cjstudent2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋