I'm not asking you to read all of this it's WAY TO LONG i only want you to read ONE!!! I DON'T CARE WHICH ONE YOU PICK
So I’m a senior in high school going through a lot of stress right now. I feel like I’m really seeing my friends true colors shine and they aren’t shining to brightly to say the least. I have written 3 different situations that I am in right now!. ALL OF THEM VERY UPSETING! You can call me a drama queen if you want you can be rude about this whole thing or you can be polite about it I don’t really care I’m not asking you to read all four of them NOT BY ANY MEANS YOU DO NOT HAVE TO READ ALL 4!! That would take much to long but I beg of you to at least read ONE PLEASE and give me some sort-of advice on it! PLEASE! I really am upset. This has been upsetting me for awhile I come home crying almost every night now. I don’t know what to do anymore!!
AGAIN THIS IS VERY LONG BUT I'M ONLY ASKING YOU TO READ ONE OF MY 3 SITUATIONS!
2007-03-14 08:49:14 · 8 answers · asked by LiL Chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Person #1
Person # 1 and I have been friends since the 4th grade. We went to elementary, middle and high school together. I went to her birthday party in 6th grade and got into a fight with one of her friends. I invite this person to EVERYTHING of mine…My birthday parties, movies everything! She always shows up too. Recently she told me to my face that she was having 2 house parties! But she then told me that she was not inviting me. When I asked her why she did not invite me her responses were the following
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2007-03-14 08:49:47 · update #1
told u the god d*mn reason... maybe i thought u'd be uncomfortable... i still remember during 4th grade at Julie's birthday part you were down in her basement CRYING because you fet like everyone hated ... well u know who came down there to see if you were okay... oh yea! that was ME!!!!!!!!! i tried to ******* help you... MAYBE i thought u'd be uncomfortable with the people at the party and i didn't want u to get upsest and start crying again... if u actually think of it... i was trying to help you! so i'm sorry if u think i hate you but i don't... you just take things the wrong way and your going to tell ME to grow up! wow.... let's just read u'r post again and see who should grow up and try and learn what people are trying to do to help you. and HELL people go behind my back all the time... that's life... it WILL happen so sorry.”
2007-03-14 08:50:24 · update #2
lright u want the truth???? the truth is that i felt you were out of place and i didn't know if you would fit in with the people at my party... hell u dont' even KNOW any of my xc friends except for kat but that's one out of like 10. and my other friends i dont' know if u'r friends and that group of friends that i have we have the same exact people at our parties it's not like it's anything new all of their parties i'm mostly invited to and my party they are invited to so i'm sorry if i thought it would be weird. oh and that's the other thing i DIDN'T tell you that i was having a party because i didn't want to hurt u'r feelings but i should have known it would come out sooner or later... and how many times do i have to say sorry beacuse i will say that i am sorry i told you i was sorry like a hundred times so i don't know what you want me to say.”
2007-03-14 08:50:53 · update #3
To add my own detail to what i said she went and invited my BEST FRIEND to this party. She says i don't know anybody from the XC team but yet i RAN XC and TRACK FOR 2 YEARS!!!
2007-03-14 08:51:23 · update #4
1.Would you forgive her and be friends with her?
2.Do you feel what she was saying was just an excuse because she did not want to tell me the “real” reason why she was not inviting me to her parties.
3.What would you do in my situation?
2007-03-14 08:52:05 · update #5
Person # 2
Person # 2 and I have been friends for awhile now. Her and I and a ton of other people were all supposed to go to prom together! She told everybody to buy there tickets on Wednesday which is today. Yesterday she came up to me her other best friend Katie and my boyfriend and told us all that she had already bought tickets with all of the other people who were supposed to go with us, got a limo, and a table and that they were now full so we would have to find other people to go with to the prom! Katie was in tears! Because Person # 2 is really Katie’s like best friends. All of my other friends are either going with a group of people already and had asked me but I told them I couldn’t because I was going with person # 2 and now there tables are full OR are not going at all.
2007-03-14 08:52:47 · update #6
Please note that person # 2 is also BEST FRIENDS WITH KATIE! BEST FRIENDS and every day during our lunch period when Katie is not there Person # 2 comes to me and COMPLAINS about how horrible of a person Katie is. She even told me she wasn't sure if she wanted to go to Penn State because she found out Katie was going to be there and she didn't want to get stuck rooming with her! Two days later she ended up agreeing to room with Katie. I have also heard person # 2 go up to Katie and talk trash about me calling me "dumb" because i almost failed out of my only AP class i ever took in high school. She was making nasty remarks about how she's shocked i even got into college etc etc. I was BEHIND HER the whole time but i did not say anything to her
2007-03-14 08:54:32 · update #7
Person # 3
Person # 3 used to be my BEST FRIEND! I told her everything. Recently I was running for a position as president of a club. My best friend who was president at the time told me she didn’t think the position was right for me and that she would like to allow freshman to become presidents and VP’s because they are the one’s taking over the club next year. I was fine with that I said ok I see where your coming from. She then went behind my back and allowed 2 of her other friends to be the president of the club and vice president and the two people were SENIORS (in my grade) and had NEVER been involved with the club EVER! I’ve been involved with the club for 6 years! It’s a club about people against smoking and trying to get teens to quit
2007-03-14 08:55:12 · update #8
Person # 3 had total control of the club and could do what she wanted with it! That's how she got to choose who was VP and such. She didn't allow people to vote.
O yes and also with person #3 she allowed KNOWING that her gay guy friend was saying this she allowed him to call me up tell me to go hang myself and die because everybody hates me. He called me on HER PHONE To say this and i never even got an apology from her. When i confronted her about this she said yeah i heard what he said i was right there and i don't know why he said it.
2007-03-14 08:56:24 · update #9
WOW SOUND LIKE YOU NEED TO FIND NEW FRIENDS
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO HANG OUT WITH PEOPLE THAT ACT LIKE THAT
GURL YOU'LL BE ALLRIGHT
ONCE YOU GRADUATE YOU WONT EVEN HAVE TIME FOR THEM OR ANY OF THIS DRAMA...
LET GO AND ENJOY YOUR LAST YEAR OF SCHOOL CUZ YOU WILL MISS IT...
2007-03-14 09:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by ???? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY ANSWER FOR THAT FIRST PERSON, IS THAT i can understand what you are going through right now, it sounds so full of unnecessary waste of drama. I mean i know right now the party situation bothers you and you can't see the future, but what kind of a friend cares whether or not you're friends with the other people at the party. I mean i a had a party in 6th grade and there was one girl i invited just because i liked her, and she was reallll quiet and noone else really talked to her, but who cares, the point is that it was my party and i wanted her there. I think that if this girl doesn't think enough of you to want you around at her party, as if you are some kind of embarrassment, then don't beg her or show her any emotion because then you might make yourself look like a tag along, if you know what i mean. Just try, even though i know right now it is hard, just try to have confidence, and pay more attention to your other friends, the ones who don't exclude you. but what i would say would get to her the most is if you act like nothings wrong in a normal kinda way, and be cool. so when something does finally come up, where either she wants to invite you or you have another party, you can just tell her, no thanks, i'm not really in the mood, but thanks. and remember to be nice. and when you have a party don't invite her, and then she might ask you why and be all mad, and you can tell her, you're sorry but you forgot and didn't think it was a big deal. Mean while, remember 2 things, #1 i can tell from this whole situation that this friendship is too stressful and not really worth keeping for 10 more years ya know, i mean with her trying to treat you like a lacky, #2 you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar, which is what my dad tells me. so in other words, be nice, because one day she will either see what she missed out on as far as a friendship, or really need you and then you can make a decision if you want to be there for her,or do her dirty like she did to you, but in a nice way. lol ya know?
2007-03-14 16:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I have been out of High School for almost ten years now, and I remember these situations. All it is is a bunch of high school drama and popularity contest. You learn in your senior year and after who your true friends are. I know its hard and I know that it can hurt, but the best thing for you to do is tell this girl that your okay with not being invited to her party cause it wont be that fun anyways, and go out with a group of girls that also were not invited and have a great time. I have been in your situation many of times and I have always had a better time either on my own or with someone else
2007-03-14 15:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by PIGPEN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Person #1 :: That's just not even a good friend. Just don't invite her to any of Ur parties now. and just ingore her like she doesn't exist. Just don't be friends with her. You Deserve much better than her.. Friends don't do that to each other.. especially that often. Even if you want to still be friends your better off not because then your giving in to what she wants.. and she'll realize she needs you or even if she doesn't that's her loose not yours!!
Person #2;; Shes also not that great of a friend apparently... You should just tell her up front how you feel. Get yoUr own table with all ur friends and have a good time and don't worry about that girl cuz she'll realize that its not the same with out Ur friends..
Good Luck With All Of Them =]
2007-03-14 15:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Alexis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you to do in any of these situations is to back away from all of it because it sounds like none of these people are worth your time and all you're doing is wasting energy with them.
sorry to hear about it, though... good luck.
2007-03-14 16:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG get way better friends im sorry for you.
2007-03-14 15:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop associating with people like that! I'd rather have NO FRIENDS then have friends like that
2007-03-16 13:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by cappa2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like you got a couple of bitches on your hand....hun i don't know what to tell you but just to pray for them!
2007-03-14 15:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by blueyedtrumpet18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋