I am a gay, looking for lifelong relation. I am from India. Here it is considering as sin. So getting one gay partner is so difficult. and most of them are looking for sex. I am expecting something more from a partnership. I wish to live with a boy like hetrosexual couples. is it foolishness? looking for your advice
2007-03-14 08:47:29 · 17 answers · asked by Tharun K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've been with a guy for 10 years. It can happen.
Forget about what other people think. There are a ton of screwed up ideas in the world, and you have to decide your own way. If you are gay, and you believe that that is ok, then they are all wrong and that's it.
To find a guy, you need to date. Don't go to singles bars or other places where there are guys who just want to hook up for sex. You might need to ask lots of guys out before you find a guy you get along with.
Another key to a long relationship is: are you ready for commitment? I know when I was younger, I wasn't so much. But later, I felt ready to "settle down" as they say.
If you are ready, and you persevere, you will find a guy. Remember - the only guaranteed way to fail, at anything, is to quit.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 08:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Steven D 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's foolishness at all. Also, I don't look at it as a sin; I believe that much of the Bible's content was written by people who wished to further a political agenda. Not following your heart and suppressing your true feelings would make it hell on earth, so I think that if you know you are gay and that this is right for you, you shouldn't feel guilty for feeling this way. We are all unique - it's what makes the world go round. Good luck to you in finding true love.
2007-03-14 15:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, not foolish. Many gay people commit to a partner for life and can now actually get legally married in some states and provinces (Ontario, Canada)!!
You will soon realize that there are alot of men (and gay women) that are interested in a same-sex partner as you are. Good luck!
2007-03-14 15:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by Cari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of people in long term gay relationships...i have gay friends who have been together for over 15 years...look at all the gays who want to get married. Its not just you. I assume gay dating is just like any other dating, you meet alot of people until you find the right one for you. If your really serious about finding someone, maybe treat it like a part time job..keep files and journals, write down things that you want and are looking for, set certain times and dates to meet people etc. Good luck!
2007-03-14 15:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by EAT! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in your country it would be foolish considering the constraints you live under, however in many other countries it would be just fine.
I live with my husband of 16 years. We raised our daughter together and she has moved out and on to college. We are very happy and hide from no one. Both our families know as well as both our employers - we are 100% completely open.
2007-03-14 16:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not foolish, when you meet another gay man just be upfront with what you are looking for so that he knows that you are not just in it for the sex. One day you'll meet the right guy.
2007-03-14 15:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no more than seeking a lifelong straight partnership - you know the divorce rate is 50%...that doesn't take in to account non-married partners
2007-03-14 15:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by fdm215 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to San Francisco, West Hollywood, or New York. The gay white men love dark skinned guys, and better if you are uncircumcised.
2007-03-14 15:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing sinful in seeking love and happiness with someone special. I have found such happiness myself. I hope that you can, perhaps, relocate to someplace more "friendly" and find that special someone! good luck and best wishes...everyone deserves to be happy!
2007-03-14 23:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not foolish, but you may want to look at relocating to a homosexual-friendly country.
2007-03-14 15:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋