That you hate having sex with him...though you've already told him so.
2007-03-14 08:46:13 · 31 answers · asked by BarbaraJean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You either need to help to learn to do more things that will turn you on or you need to end your relationship... the way it is now is not fair to either one of you.... if this is not something that the two of you can work on... it is over.
2007-03-14 08:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A husband won't understand that unless 1) you incapable of enjoying it due to a medical condition or 2) you have found out you are gay. Otherwise it is a natural part of a marriage to share intimacy and enjoy it if your marriage is a happy one. If you have already tried different ways(and there is nothing wrong with either of you medically) and still aren't the least bit interested then maybe you shouldn't be married. You can try many things to make it better, but you both must have an interest to try or it's a waste of time.
2007-03-14 08:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how in the world would YOU feel if your husband told you that he hated having sex with you? you sound VERY selfish.. OR perhaps you've been around the block a time or two and know the difference between GOOD sex and BAD sex???????? But...if you hate the thought of you and your husband having sex, maybe you should pack your stuff and LEAVE! Because I'm sure he HATES to have to go to work everyday for YOUR asz!
2007-03-14 08:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Joannie W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't like to be told how to do it out of ego, you need to communicate it is not just about the male orgasm it has to do with women having a good time too!!
If you don't like it don't have it!!! If he forces you is called rape no matter what status you are!!!
You might have to be nicer when bringing up the fact of the sex thing......he might think he is good because he is arrogant but most women have told me in various occassions about troubles like yours. Communication is a big part of marriage and when sex is bad it is 80% of the relationship and when sex is good is only about 20% of the relationship!
If he really loves you he will listen and if he does not care you will have no choice but to leave him.....or if you have low selfsteem and think you are the worst person in the world let him rape you over and over again!!!
2007-03-14 08:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg I am going through the same crap with mine. They think with the little head thats y. And the little head only understands one hole and its not the one in your face. Men believe that when they are horny and married they have the right to "relieve" themselves with their wives. Even if you don't like it, its not their problem because they are getting off! What i do when my hubby makes me have sex is just lie there still as can be and not touch him or do anything! They need to be stimulated and without that it proves to be a worthless come. A waste of their time. Maybe after a few love sessons with someone who appears to be sleeping they will just jack off! I like to bring up things that piss me off when he is going at it. that also distracts him and it really ruins the mood for him. Hey if I have to do something I hate then he should have to feel some of my pain too.
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2007-03-14 12:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you hate having sex with your husband? Is it because you're burned out, because of your husband's constant demands for sex? Do you feel more like a sex object than a person? If this is your problem, welcome to the club. Unfortunately, some husbands don't consider their wives, when it comes to sex. These idiots think they should have sex with their wives whenever they want it, no matter what this does to her mind and body. These are monsters and if you're living with one, stand your ground until he starts treating you like a person, instead of a sex machine.
2007-03-14 08:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a difference between understanding something and accepting it. He may well cognitively understand that you hate it, but that doesn't mean he finds it acceptable. And, it's not acceptable in a marriage. Rejection of a person sexually is a very basic and physical rejection of the person as a whole. You sound rejecting, cold, and cruel.
2007-03-14 08:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you didn't mention are you hate having sex with him because of his performance or because he is a bad guy , if you hate him as a husband thin divorce him , and if you can't stand his performance , try to help him to improve that and try to remember the good things that you had before , that would makes you accept him as a lover .
2007-03-14 09:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you be willing to let him fulfill this basic need with a woman other than yourself? Were you not aware when you got married that conjugal relations were a part of the deal? Is it sex in general that you hate or just sex with HIM? Would improvement of his techniques/hygine change anything for you?
2007-03-14 08:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He can't understand it because its part of a marriage and, you haven't told him why you don't. Most men are willing to have sex with you the way you want them to so that you are pleased and they can keep getting it. If you don't like having sex with him, then you don't like him and you need to just let him go. Can't have your cake and eat it, too.
2007-03-14 08:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you are still married to him, and sex is a part of marriage. Its not the only thing, it doesn't have to be a BIG part, but its still a part of it. I guess you can either tell him exactly how you feel VERY BLUNTLY, or just count your losses and leave. Its not right to hold out on him.
2007-03-14 08:49:03 · answer #11 · answered by DevonChaos 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋