What is Wrong with people?

Question

Okay, yesterday I asked a question about my 10 month old who does not want to crawel or pull up. All he wants to do is stand up and be walked around. I also stated that I have 3 other children and don't have time to walk him around all day, who does?! I asked for advice in what I could do and if any one else has had this issue. I got some good responses, but I also got two really smart mouthed responses. This really ticks me off! Why do people feel that they have to be so critical and judge others when they do not ecen know what the heck they are talking about!? I got one response from a new first time mother who said that I need to make time for my kids. Okay, I spend all the time in the world with them, read, play, take them to the park, and so on, so what the heck are people thinking. If people can't respond in a positive, helpful way, get the heck off the computer and examine your attitude!!!! Who agrees?

Answer 1

I agree, but I guess that's the downfall to freedom of speech, people have the right to say what they want, even if it's not what you want to hear.

You know that you're a good mom, ignore the people who don't know what they are talking about and listen to the ones that have something worthwhile to say... I would recommend getting a walker or one of those toys that they can push along... I got one for my daughter at that age b'cuz we were having the same problem and she loved it, they also have this thing at target.com, you put it around their waste and it has these stretchy things so that you can walk them around without having to bend over the whole time, so much better for your back. I didn't get it simply because my daughter got over that stage pretty quickly and started walking on her own, but it may be something for you to consider. Good luck and I hope that you don't let the negative people bring you down anymore than they already have.

Answer 2

Everyone likes to be the critic. Everyone thinks that the way they raise their children is better than you or me. Don't listen to the rude comment that a few make. They probably don't even have children. The ones that usually like to make comments on how to raise kids has never even been around kids and think they know what it is like. Having children is a very demanding and tiring job, especially if you have more than one. Just keeping the home organized and dinner on the table takes up a good chunck of time and when there are more than one child it is impossible to devote every waking minuted dedicated to the kids. You are not supermom no-one is and I hate it when fake people act as if they are, when most likely behind closed doors they are far from perfect. It makes you a good mom just for asking for advice. It sounds like you are a good mom and you will come up with a way to help your kids. If your son only wants to walk around, he will probably be mobile on his own really soon and the problem will pass. In the meantime you could try a walker. I know that many don't like them because of the increased danger of the baby getting hurt, but if you childproof everything and not use it near stairs, it will be a lifesaver and your baby can walk about by himself and follow you or his siblings around. I know that I couldn't live without one. Good luck and don't let peoples ignorant comments bother you!

Answer 3

Well...in a perfect world...we'd all be nice to each other and listen to the lessons our grandmothers taught us about if we don't have anything nice to say we shouldn't say anything

Unfortunately...this is not a perfect world...and the Internet has only made it worse. People think that because it's anonymous...that talking s.h.i.t. and being rude is OK...cause you never have to look that person in the eye. And although that DOES NOT make it ok...it sure does make it alot easier to do.

So...basically...I have adopted the attitude that if I ask a question...I'll likely get at least one or two idiot responses...but tolerating morons is worth it...if I make some friends or get other useful responses along with the lame ones.

Just like anything else mama...you have to take the good with the bad...

Some people just get their rocks off by talking out their asses.

Answer 4

I agree with you. I got some very rude answers the first time I ever came on here to a question I posed. I was really worried about something and that made me feel worse. But when you are talking to people you don't know and they have anonymity on their side, you pretty much have to take what you get. So if I were you, I would take the good advice and forget the dummies.

Answer 5

This is an anonymous forum. A lot of people are 1) just answering for the points 2) they know they can be smart *** and get away with it. I refer to those as the Peanut Gallery People. Just ignore them because they don't really deserve your attention.

I didn't see your question yesterday, so I'll give my answer to it now. I have no doubts you are a good mom, or you wouldn't even be asking this question in this forum. He will take off walking when he is good and ready. Having older siblings will help with this, because one of them can take his hand. When they are doing things he is going to want to do, he will follow their lead.

Answer 6

I think people on yahoo answers are at all stages of development in terms of self-awareness, awareness of diversity in the world, ability to express themselves, capacity for analysis, and creativity for solutions. I think the free and essentially anonymous exchange of ideas is amazingly useful. If people are honest with themselves, they can learn a lot about the feedback they get on Yahoo Answers. By that, I mean the reactions one gets to the ANSWERS ones gives, like your reaction to the two women. One of them will probably think - hey, i need to get more information or hey, i shouldn't assume the worst. Others might start to think - wow, i really don't see things the way others do. And still other annoying answerers will just think - fu when they read the feedback they get.

As an answerer and an asker, one must be strong enough in oneself to take whatever comes when we put ourselves out so openly like this to all the world. Strong enough to believe in oneself despite a flurry of criticism and strong enough to examine one's self when one gets criticism.

A forum where everyone is polite and guarded is a forum all of us have access to every day. Less formal rules of interaction may provide access to ideas not normally encountered. Chip away the dirt and pebbles to find the nuggets of gold or glittering diamonds in this mining of the (Yahoo) world's minds. (sorry for waxing poetic.)

Answer 7

Amen, sister. People are always full of opinions when you are the mother of a baby, whether you ask for them or not. That person's remark about "making time for your baby" is crap. She probably has one child and a housekeeper yet she can judge other people's time. Whatever. Some people are just out of touch with reality. Don't worry about them and keep doing what you are doing.

Answer 8

Forget them! As long as you know that you are doing everything in the world that you can for kids, and that you love them more than anything else, that is all that really matters. At least you're out there trying to get some helpful hints and advice on what you can do to help your child grow. Kudos to you!

Answer 9

I agree....you are responding to your babies needs and also showing concern (though I would say your 10 month old is quite normal) and that is the best thing a mother can do. Four kids is a lot of work for anyone to handle, but it doesn't mean you are neglecting any of them. Good Luck!

Answer 10

I agree, but when people respond that way the best thing to do is to ignore them. and its not easy taking care of 4 children and you are doing the best that you can. getting mad is not going to stop some people. so ignore is the only answer I can tell you to do. be happy and enjoy your children, they are all worth it. try to have a better day.