I know this is going to make me terribly unpopular, but I'll ask it anyway. I feel that if a man and a woman accidently get pregnant, the man often gets screwed if the woman is unwilling to go through with an abortion. Basically, he has no say in whether or not the child is kept, and if the woman decides to keep the kid, he's then liable for child support payments for the next 18 years. Doesn't this seem unfair? I feel that if the woman is unwilling to have an abortion, then she should give up her right to chase the man for child support. After all, if it were his choice, then there would be no child support payments. I understand it's the woman's body so she gets to make the call, but it's as much his kid as it is hers.
This is a really painful subject, and PLEASE don't respond with any hate messages. I simply want to see other people's perspective.
2007-03-14 08:35:19 · 4 answers · asked by Luc 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I hope you come out of this alive lol. But I agree with you totally, I'm a female so I go with my body my call thing, but I do feel for the man. It takes two to tango, if the female wants to keep it but the guy says no she should sign an agreement not to pursue child support if she finds herself in over her head nine months from them, or if she's just a ******. Having a kid at the wrong time, or in general sometimes, screws people over, and ultimately kid. a kid shouldn't deal with a bitter poor dad and a spiteful and foolish mother.
good luck to you man ; )
2007-03-14 08:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I typically bounce from side to side on this issue, but in the end it's both the father's and the mother's child and they are both equally liable for the care of that child. It's not the child's fought for the circumstances they were brought into. And I say if you lay down with somebody, be prepared for whatever consequences that may arise!
2007-03-14 15:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by KasaiB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good point... but consider this: the man was at least 50 percent responsible for conceiving the child, yet how many guys are worried about birth control?
women tend to get screwed by unwanted pregnancy far more then men. If this is the sole legal mechanism to get the men involved to be more responsible, is it so bad? nope.
If you can't handle the payments, keep your pants on.
2007-03-14 15:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Well, get this.
There are remote societies in which the rate of survival of children by the age of two (which means overall, they will live to adulthood)
is based not on dad,
not on mom, who has more kids and lays around breastfeeding,
but on the mother's mother or
the mother's aunt.
Men don't even figure in.
Go figure that!Now, what would happen if the man drew up adoption papers, signed them, and had them on file.
If the woman refused to sign them, then she SHOULD let him off of the hook.
We have too many non-celebs going out of the country on perilous months-long trips to adopt, and we can't give up our own American kids?
Nasty selfish American moms!
2007-03-14 16:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋